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haven't made any friends after freshers week, am totally alone and hating it
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i live nearby but at last minute decided 2 move into university accomodation because I thought i would make some friends.
my housemates are never in or stay in their rooms, its really hard 2 socilaise with them even though I have really tried. I'm considering asking if I can moved to a different house because I am bored to death in this house.
I haven't met any friends and its upsetting me because I like a party and a night out but have no-one to go out with so end up staying in.
i didn't go out at all in freshers week cos i was on my own.
i might be joining the cookery club but i want 2 meet friends soon. I see people walking around together and thinking 'why can't i have something like that'and it upsets me.
there's not many people in my class either and they just seem 2 have their own friends.
please help me
my housemates are never in or stay in their rooms, its really hard 2 socilaise with them even though I have really tried. I'm considering asking if I can moved to a different house because I am bored to death in this house.
I haven't met any friends and its upsetting me because I like a party and a night out but have no-one to go out with so end up staying in.
i didn't go out at all in freshers week cos i was on my own.
i might be joining the cookery club but i want 2 meet friends soon. I see people walking around together and thinking 'why can't i have something like that'and it upsets me.
there's not many people in my class either and they just seem 2 have their own friends.
please help me
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Give it time hun,,,,this from a mum. My daughter was in the same position 2yrs ago...she just wanted to come home that first week or so. But she stuck with it...amazingly most of her friends are from outside her courses. She is doing chemistry...They are geeks...She isn't..lol
Now she has loads of friends...just make sure you go out...don't wait for things to come to you. And remember-you are not the only one...good luck!
Now she has loads of friends...just make sure you go out...don't wait for things to come to you. And remember-you are not the only one...good luck!
Indie, i too have been in your position except i was into indie music (much like yourself no doubt!) and the others were either off out to raves or staying and sleeping off the hangover. Someone else did a load of drugs which i didnt want to be involved in, there was a boy and a girl who 'paired off', a girl whojust did her homework ALL day.
Nightmare. In the end, i found some other mates to hang around with and dance to Ian Brown with! i stayed in the house and was polite to the others, but i spent most of my time with people who had similiar interests to me :)
Make sure you hang out with lots of people when your course starts. You will be fine. No need to move house.... YET!
Good luck fellow indie gal
xxx
Nightmare. In the end, i found some other mates to hang around with and dance to Ian Brown with! i stayed in the house and was polite to the others, but i spent most of my time with people who had similiar interests to me :)
Make sure you hang out with lots of people when your course starts. You will be fine. No need to move house.... YET!
Good luck fellow indie gal
xxx
Hi there. Right, now I've got regrets about how I acted in my first year or so of uni (see my post!). What you've got to do is meet people. Even if you're shy you've just got to put your neck out. If you spot people you think are like you, or you hear on the grape vine about a group of people who like a party then go knocking! Literally, you've still got time. It'll just become more awkward the longer you leave it. Friends do shuffle around quite a lot at uni and if all your housemates are really not your type of people at least you can flatter the people you talk to by explaining your situation (don't seem desperate just like, 'Oh thank god there are some people around here who like to have fun!' thereby saying that they're really fun people! Everyone likes to be flattered!
Having said all that maybe that uni just isn't the place for you. I had a friend who dropped out, had a gap yr and ended up at a better uni that she loved. I wouldn't make a decision like that hastily tho cos you do need to give yourself some time to meet people. Be proactive and confident (people will never know that you're upset about everything and will just think you're being friendly.)
Let us know how it goes. This really is very common! xxx
Having said all that maybe that uni just isn't the place for you. I had a friend who dropped out, had a gap yr and ended up at a better uni that she loved. I wouldn't make a decision like that hastily tho cos you do need to give yourself some time to meet people. Be proactive and confident (people will never know that you're upset about everything and will just think you're being friendly.)
Let us know how it goes. This really is very common! xxx
Accomodation is the key.
You need a house with people you can use as your 'foundation' i.e. always someone there for a drink or chat. Without this you will struggle if you don't find friends during class time. During my first attempt at Uni I didn't meet anyone I connected with during the first few days of classes and seemed to miss out on the friendships that were forming around me. The longer it went on the harder it was to 'get in' with the groups that had formed. The real problem however was that I was living in a place on my own. I dropped out in the end.
So when I started again at a different uni I made sure to get a place with cool people. From then on it was easy. I met people from my course while I was out with my flatmates where it was easier to approach and get to know them. Within a few weeks I was spoilt for choice for nights out. Hope that helps.
You need a house with people you can use as your 'foundation' i.e. always someone there for a drink or chat. Without this you will struggle if you don't find friends during class time. During my first attempt at Uni I didn't meet anyone I connected with during the first few days of classes and seemed to miss out on the friendships that were forming around me. The longer it went on the harder it was to 'get in' with the groups that had formed. The real problem however was that I was living in a place on my own. I dropped out in the end.
So when I started again at a different uni I made sure to get a place with cool people. From then on it was easy. I met people from my course while I was out with my flatmates where it was easier to approach and get to know them. Within a few weeks I was spoilt for choice for nights out. Hope that helps.
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