Dumping Boyfriend

[nennyc]

I havn't been going out with my boyfriend that long
I didnt speak to him much, but we were friends and i was comfortable around him.
He'd previously told me he liked me earlier in the year, but i dismissed it.
Then about 3-4 weeks ago he asked me out to my face (pretty brave as that dosnt usually happen at school - were both 16)
I said yes, cause he is my friend and we do get on, but i think i maybe just did it cause i couldn't bear to say no when he's just asked me like that and he is a canny lad.
At the weekend we went out and he treat me really nice and paid for me to go to the cinema, but i dont see him much in school and im too busy after school.
I just don't like him the way he seems to like me.
How can i do it nicely?
i want to be as brave as he was - face to face, but i need to do it soon (birthday and he's on about getting me something - and i dont want him) and i never see him in school - which is one of the other reasons why im breaking up with him , but cant tell him cause he's either with is friends or i cant find him.
How should i do it ?
i dont want any "it's not you it's me.." line lol :)
cheers

[jack daniels]

Just arrange to meet up somewhere/sometime & tell him that you want to go back to just being friends & that you don't see him any other way.
Tell him that you tried but it isn't the same as it seems for him to adapt.
Be honest with him & don't let it drag on, otherwise you're gonna end up hurting him more then he needs to be.

hth

good luck

[nennyc]

cheers :)
I'll do it soon - tomorrow if possible
it's been weighing down on me
as soon as i do it, i'll feel loads better

[jack daniels]

whatever you do - don't make him look a numpty in front of his mates, do it privately

[joggerjayne]

How about:

I want to say that it's not you ... it's me.

But the truth is ... it is you.

[nennyc]

yeah, will do
if i cant get him on his own
i think ill ring him - ill try face to face tomorrow, but if i can't ill ring him on the night time
I've worked out pretty much what im going to say now

[nennyc]

lol jayne - i was hoping to be gentle with my approach!

[jack daniels]

JJ - exactly how much have you been drinking???? lol

[sandmaster]

Best of luck nennyc. This is one of the hardest things we have to do as we mature. You seem to be handling it very well.

[nennyc]

did it yesterday. It wasn't as bad as I thoihgt it would be. I got him on his own and said that I don't think it's working out. He agreed so it was o.k (although i've since heard that he didnt think that and was just saying that) it was hard espicially as the lesson before he was asking his class what he should get me for my birthday. Also he mentioned that loved me which really pushed me into doing it as were only 16 and has only been going out a few week :S I was nice as I could about breaking up.
thanks for all your help :) x