Sleep with someone on a first date?

[maplestar]

Would you sleep with someoneon a first date? and do you think men and women are judged differentlly on this matter? Also, anyone out there in a long-term relationship with someone who you slept with on a first date?

[terambulan]

Just give me a chance ;o)

[Sgt.Rock]

Think I'll be showing you how fast I can run!!

[daniela31]

:-(

[PrinceKev]

well. I dont think there is anything wrong with sleeping with someone on the first date, regardless of males or females. I also think 'waiting til 3rd date' etc... is poss seen more critically because the person will never have influence, and you'll be seen as text book follower rather than mood following/sporadic.

I am currently engaged to someone i slept with on first date, but that is because it felt right and the mood was right. However, previously i'd slept with girls and not seen them after.

The importance is feeling comfortable so that when you do sleep with them, you feel right about it and the feeling is good, so you dont have any after-regrets spoiling something that could've been great afterwards

[jkkerr]

phillipa.d - I'm 26 years old and feel that I would have missed out on a lot being in a relationship with one person since the age of 19!

[jkkerr]

Or...do you think we got to 2.5 years and they thought, "Actually, do you know what? She's a **** for sleeping with me so early. Dumped!"

[phillipa.d]

jk - i was with someone from the age of 19 to 33, I never felt I missed out on anything, we had a lovely time. I just wouldn't call two and a half years "long term", although praps it is in this day and age...

[jkkerr]

Maybe you're just more loveable than I am :-(

[phillipa.d]

I doubt it...

[lil123]

I think it depends on wether you feel it is right or not at the time.
I have done and regretted it after then other times I felt it was ok
I am single at the moment and when I meet someone again I am going to wait as I don't just want sex anymore out of a relationship although it is important..

[dustinmyeye]

id count two and a half years a long term relationship.
i really think generation has a lot to do with this.i hate to sound "ageist" but well im 27 and my grandmother probably met my granddad and that was the only man she was ever with.times change i would say that if a woman now was to only be with one man her whole life then she is a rare case tbh.
when you say " sleep with someone on a first date" it instantly conjures up a dirty kinda imaget in your mind whereas i dont think its as simple as that, i think it depends on the people,if you are comfortable,know them before that date etc or it could just be a bit of fun between two consenting adults, people have different ideas about sex and what it means. each to their own. and yes maplestar i do think that a serious relationship can come from first date sex.

[banjobabe]

Hey maplestar,

I slept with my last bloke on the first date and we were together for seven years.

Couldn't care less what people think of me and I will sleep (have sex with) someone on the first date if I want to.

Happy daze

Bb xx

[dizzykj]

I've always waited. Only one bloke got me wanting him on the first date. He was slow on the uptake and didn't ask me out for months. By then I was gagging for him hahaha. He didn't even kiss me on our first date. Hahaha He was worth the wait.

[Ethel]

No - I never would and I never have.

Courtship is the most wonderful time, flirting and petting, and getting to know each other, having fun.

Anticipation and waiting makes it more special, too.

There is nothing very intimate and special between two strangers behaving like dogs on heat.

Apart from anything else there is a sharp increase in STIs and STDs to worry about.

If you don't know somebody well enough to let them look after your children, or leave them in your house alone, you don't know them well enough to share your body with.

[jake-the-peg]

Slept with my wife on a first date

Married 19 years

[MaggieMay126]

ok ewww. men if they do it they are called man hoe's or mensults. if women do it they are called hoes or *****. always wait intill at least the 3rd date dont be a hoe or ****. because if ur a man the women you sleep with and dont call back or something like that will tell her friends then it will spred like wildfire! i know i am a woman & i tell my girlfriends everything! it's a woman thing. and if ur a woman just dont do it. what if the man u slept with doesnt call back and u can never ever have sex without strings attched because someone always feels something deep down in there body something for the other person. just dont do it intill u and ur parter are ok with it. just ask him or her to come up to ur house or inside the other person will get the point and deside. plain and simple.

[bms]

I have done it, most of the girls I did with enjoyed.
Only one girl that complained about it.

[zxyvixy]

yes once. many years ago. one night stands are totally meaningless its nicer too become intimate and find out what each of you enjoy,and that cant be acthived (sp) on a one night stand,!no i dont think people are judged differently anymore.