Reading it wrong!!!

[puddicat]

Do you ever read a relationship wrong, maybe i am going maddddddddddddd!!!

[jb190281]

do i ever! but its always the mens fault, they mumble and bullsh*t til u dont know where u stand

[zxyvixy]

nope i know whether a relationship is right.otherwise i wouldn`t get involved.i did have a gut feeling about a relationship recently.which just didn`t feel right so gave up on it.men are not worthy anyway.

[lil123]

I do all the time.
I am seeing someone younger than me at the moment and some of the things he says I feel he wants something more serious then he will say something else which makes me feel he doesn't.
It doesn't feel right to be honest and will probably fizzle out in a few weeks which is fine as I'm ok on my own.
He doesn't seem to making much effort at all apart from sex which is ok at first

[lil75]

I think us women analyze everything too much, I do it all the time, and we take everything literally!

[andy-hughes]

I think verbal communication is one of the least effective methods we have - but we use it in all our dealings with each other, which means relationships are minefields of misunderstanding.

A major problem is the differences in the giving and receiving of signals.

My motto as a single man was always simple - if a woman wishes you to 'make a move', she will let you know, and if she doesn't, then save your dignity, she is not interested.

Men tend to 'put' signals in place from a woman, even if they are not there! If they are attracted to a woman, they think she is equally attratced, even if her lack of signals indicate something different, a man will simply see what he wants to see.

And that's before they even get together!

So yes, i think reading relationships takes pracrtise, time, and experience, and men are guilty of wishing to put none of these aspects in place.

It's a wonder anyone gets together!

[happyone2]

i wonder if one of the (many!) problems is that women have a perception of what is going on in the relationship and then use this position to gauge everything that they are being told.

ie ...........i KNOW he loves me

BUT to everyone else clearly his actions suggest that he just sees you as a quick s**g................ and is disrespectful and rude.

SO instead of saying "go away " ( but more vehemently !! ) you try and change his behaviour or see his behaviour as an aberration caused by his mum telling him off when he was young and not potty training him early enough etc etc.

one day hes nice ( so you are right he does love you??) one day hes horrible ( wasnt his mum awful and with your love he will help him overcome it !!!)

I think we need to remember that love is always kind, love is always supportive and love is always a beautiful thing and you are worth recieving that love and until you believe that you will believe the above

Good luck

therefore..................