Is he just not interested?...

[blondie83]

I met this guy on a social networking website and we started chatting and got on really well. We swapped numbers and he was txting me all the time. After about a week, he asked me to visit him. He lives an hour and a half away from me, but he doesn't have a car, and I do, so I agreed and went to visit him this weekend. We had a lovely time, just chilled out, he cuddled me the whole time and genuinly seem to like me. Nothing happened between us other than kissing and cuddeling. He was a real gent!!! Anyway, since i'v got home, Iv barely heard from him. i'v had the odd few txts but nothing like before. Why is this? I'm not stupid, obviously I'm aware that maybe he just isn't interested, which is totally fine, but then why act like he was? Plus he knows i'm so far away so all he has to do is be honest and just tell me the truth. I mean he knew what I looked like before we met, I hadn't lied about anything and we got on really well, so why's he gone so cold on me? Any idea's?
TIA

[Velvetee]

Well the problem with these social networking sites, is that it is incredibly easy to meet as many people as and when you want. Perhaps this guy has a number of women he meets up with and gets off on meeting new women. Possibly, now he's actually met you, the novelty has been satisfied and he's moved onto the next person.

That's just my take on social networking sites, from my own previous experiences. The only way to know for sure is to ask him, however, he may not answer you honestly.

[happyone2]

i think things like this hone down your own ideas about what is acceptable and what isnt................

to me, as someone who uses an interent site also

1) never bother with a man who lives beyond reasonable travelling distance to yourself ( and thats less than 1/2 hours journey)
2) be wary of a man who hasnt got a car and wont get on a train.................hes probably just lazy
3) always get more info than a mobile no.........they wont like it, but if they are really interested in you they will give it..... an email address as a very very poor minimum, but you should know where they work at least. - if you know where he lives then you could write.
4) if you only have a mobile number then theres a very good chance he is hiding something ( im not being sexist i would say this if the roles were reversed ) .
5) dont ever ever kiss a man who you dont have the above information on ever ...................... and dont think just cos he kissed you he liked you...................

i would consider that you were not safe when you met this man personally and would advise you to think about that !!!

as to him not telling you why hes not wanting to contact you again.......................

again my view

1) its got nothing to do with you................
2) he liked you enough to give you a nice day and a kiss and a cuddle, but not enough to tell you that that was all
3) thats fair enough, not every one will light his fire, just as not every man will light yours, it isnt because you arent good enough for him, its just that for him you arent the one.
4) you will meet some men you feel the same way about and then you will see what i mean.
4) but he was not so nice in not letting you know at least by text.
5) but hey ! lots of people wouldnt bother to tell you - and be really honest - if you havent done the same you probably

[blondie83]

Happyone, I do think i was fairly safe when i met him as his family was in the house and i was in constant contact with my family too, as they were obviously worried about me!!!
Lol, thanks for all your answers. I have heard from him since and he seems fine, but i suppose it's just a gut feeling that somethings not right. I'm not gonna let it bother me tho atall. I appreciate all your answers, if anyone else has any other views on it then let me know still yeah.
thank you xx

[Sgt.Rock]

Obviously he's not interested in you.

You should be aware that most people on social network sites are weirdoes who are unable interact with people face to face. That's why they are there in the first place.

[MrBounty]

I think the so-called "happyone" has had some serious issues in the past!!

[chlamydia]

maybe because you didnt put out he lost interested. what social networking site is this? I use face party and I have met some girls from faceparty b4 and they did put out. however I didnt call them back

hope this helps

[happyone2]

LOL !! Havent we all...............however i stand by what i said, you have to be careful !!

[unrulyjulie]

I think sometimes you can get along fine online but then when you meet in person, it's different altogether and the spark just isnt there. Maybe this is what happened with him.