Love

[bigmamma]

Do you think it's better to have someone who loves you and then you lose them , or never to have had anyone love you ever .?

[sara3]

I think both options are pants :o(

[cazzz1975]

well I suppose the first one gives you a rule of thumb, I would rather experience love than not at all.

[weeal]

Awww mamma, both are very sore, but they say its better to have loved and lost than never loved at all

[bigmamma]

I saw the despair in my step-father when my mother passed away , and yet he often talks fondly about her and has such good memories of their time together .
I often , well when I get in this frame of mind , I think that I've missed out on something special with never having had anyone in love with me or vice-versa even.

[Rosetta]

For me it has to be the former, to experience the giving and receiving of love is a wonderful thing.

Never to have been loved is very sad, though this assumes it is just romantic or sexual. Some can experience the love of friends and family without experiencing romantic love

[weeal]

ahhh but how do you know this mamma, you are virtually surrounded by love you know, all different kinds of love

[bigmamma]

I have a loving family , but here I'm talking about the special kind of love between 2 people , of which I know nothing .
Someone who ......

[weeal]

oh hon I hope youre ok xxx
check your FB messages please

[Bathsheba]

Mamma! Don't be sad! Who knows what's round the corner? Just because you haven't met that special person yet doesn't mean that he isn't out there sweetie :-)

[Rosetta]

bigmamma, friends and family can be a wonderful source of love sometimes a truer and deeper love you can get from boyfriends or girlfriends. as i have got older I value other things of love, not just the rumpy pumpy. Give me a nice cup of tea anytime.

Of all the posters on hear I think you are one of the kindest. That is hugely valued

[pastafreak]

Oh mamma!...I so wish that I could give you a hug NOW ......((((((HUG))))))
I know everyone has told you that you are always surrounded by love..........obviously you have given much in your life. Now as for the kind of love you say you have missed........who's to say it is not waiting for you-just around the corner??? never,never think it is too late hun......there is no reason why you can't still experiance that love.

[bigmamma]

Back again , having composed myself . I just wonder if I'm going to stay unloved and feel like a useless woman til I die . Maybe I should be satisfied being alone with my dogs . Or maybe Bathsheba is right and I shoudn't give up looking. Wish I could stop thinking about it tonight , I don't usually mind being alone .
Thank you for your kind and supporting words weeal , Bathsheba , and Rosetta xxxxxx

[bigmamma]

Oh thank you pasta honey , your words from you all are very encouraging xxxxxxx

[weeal]

Mamma, its just one of those lows, and before you know it you will be on a high again, life sucks some days eh, you were on top form yesterday (I was pmsl at your answers on here) and you will be again tomorrow, you will see.

Bathsheba is right, there are many more corners to turn, and you just never know what awaits !! chin up sweetiepie, we are all here for ya xxx

[whiskeysheri]

Awww, mamma! :( You know, you can still feel alone when you're in a relationship, anyway. :(

I love my boyfriend to bits, hun, but even without him I think I would be happy just to have been loved by my family.

You're very special to your family and us, bigmamma. You're an absolute diamond and we all love you.

P.S. I made a comment about you on Jules' early status this morning. x x

[sara3]

tis all true...

I'm sending a stripper over to entertain you ;o)

[bigmamma]

Thank you weeal , and whiskeysheri , your right , my family are lovely and we all love each other . I can feel the love in this thread too and feel good reading your kind comments .
As weeal says , I'll be ok tomorrow and feel fine about wahat life's dealing me :-) xxxxxxx

[bigmamma]

Lol@sara :-O

[888sally888]

Oh bigmamma - you are so lovely!! You dont need love to make you the nice person you are!!x

[Bathsheba]

That's the spirit, sweetie. You've just lost your sparkle for now, but it'll come back- I promise! Mmwah xxxxxx