I am going to go mad!!!

[unhappychick]

I posted a question on here about 3 weeks ago, about my partner moving in with me, and the subsequant costs of things, he was giving me �50 a week towards the shopping and said if the bills come in he would give me half the money, the problem I had with this, is some of it direct debit and one of the other bills is a key meter, so I asked people on here if they thought �100 a week was a fair contribution towards the running/upkeep of the house, all replies I got, said it was value for money and that he should be paying more, which I didnt ask for anymore, was happy with �100...however on Saturday he said he wanted to talk to me, and said he thought his contribution of �100 a week was far too much and that he had spoken to other people, and they thought it was extortionate!!! Baring in mind, he doesnt want for anything here, he refuses to eat rubbish and always get a fresh meal cooked for him, and he takes a cooked lunch to work as well, I do all the washing and ironing, and generally run the house, that �100 includes food, gas, electric, tv licence, water rates, phone and internet fees, and he is still argueing with me about it, despite the fact that I have shown him the bills and calculated everything fair n square, 50/50, he has a good job and earns triple what I earn. Before moving in with me, he lived with his parents and never paid any housekeep, he is a man in his 30's, and I cannot believe that he is questioning me on this, and is asking all and sundry what they think, I feel its an insult, and am upset by his action/reactions to this, am I being unfair here???

[sn�gs]

He needs a good kick up the @rse...

[sn�gs]

... and then another one just for good measure :-)

[FullMoonLoon]

Damn,looks like you've got yourself "mr cheapo!" Refuse him sex till he comes up with a number thats more in "ballpark" Thats what my woman did........................lol!

[yogasun]

No, he is being unfair. �100 is more than reasonable.
It's unpleasant that he should see fit to ask everyone else their opinion. If it was me I'd be a VERY unhappychick.

[sn�gs]

... then throw him out!

[craft1948]

christ I'll move in with you for all that for �100.00...

[ChuckFickens]

I'll move in with ya for �100 a week, sounds like a bargain to me!

[B00]

Why dont you show him the cost of any one bedroomed flats that may be for rent in your area? I'm willing to bet the rent alone is in excess of �100 per week, and when you add up the cost of food, heating etc on TOP of that......

[sn�gs]

And me... that's �300 a week you'll be getting...

[DrFilth]

he is going to have a BIG shock if and when he gets his own flat


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[sleepy1j]

he is being very selfish .if u wants to live for free tell him to leave .

[craft1948]

do a spreadsheet that lists all you outgoings and show him the final total then see what the pra t says....

[wolf63]

send him back to mummy or send him to do the weekly shop.

[ChuckFickens]

by the looks of it now he is going to have a shock when he gets home and finds 3 people have moved in with you ;)

[sn�gs]

Bagsy the comfy chair by the 48" flatscreen...

[Schutzengel]

unhappychick. You are being used, and very unfairly at that. You are a direct replacement for all the things he had for free at his parents home, and presumably sex on top of that. �100 is not enough, never mind reducing it. If you want him to stay, then all household expenses should be split straight down the middle, and no ifs or buts about it. Also if he wants to stay, then he must agree to those terms.
In addition you are waiting on him hand and foot, and are definitely NOT being unfair. I really think he is a waste of space, and discussing your private financial affairs with all
and sundry is most insulting. You're certainly worth better than that. Get shut of him, and soon than later.

[unhappychick]

Wow, what a quick response, obviously im not going over the top then!

[Schutzengel]

unhappychick. You are being used, and very unfairly at that. You are a direct replacement for all the things he had for free at his parents home, and presumably sex on top of that. �100 is not enough, never mind reducing it. If you want him to stay, then all household expenses should be split straight down the middle, and no ifs or buts about it. Also if he wants to stay, then he must agree to those terms.
In addition you are waiting on him hand and foot, and are definitely NOT being unfair. I really think he is a waste of space, and discussing your private financial affairs with all
and sundry is most insulting. You're certainly worth better than that. Get shut of him, and sooner than later.

[shiznit]

I'm a bloke and even I can see he is taking the p***, and not just financially !