Jealousy

[SarahWalker]

How do you deal with a bf that's jealous all the time but u grew up with guys so you're just naturally friends with them?? How do I make him feel like the onlyone??

[pinktwink]

get rid of him

[Ice.Maiden]

Totally agree with pink here. It's your bf that has the issues, and only if he learns to control this should you even think of trying to make him feel like the "only one". Get rid, and find yourself a bf with a more mature outlook. x

[craft1948]

ask him if he fancies a threesome?

[ummmm]

Jealousy is a deep set issue. He is either insecure, something that no amount of reassurance will change or he's judging you by his own standards.

[D143237G]

Totally agree with everyone else, except for craft1948 who has obviously forgotten to take his grow up pills. My son is married to a jealous woman and she is an absolute nightmare. She does not trust him at all. She does not even believe he is always playing pool on his pool nights, even though I and sometimes my wife are with him. Get rid asap.

[no-knowledge]

yeah grow up Crakt1928 ffs

[Bbbananas]

I doubt he'll ever change. You sound relatively young to me, and as he is only your boyfriend, get out of the relationship now before it goes any further. Jealousy is destructice and can lead to even more sinister happenings.

[sqad617]

Difficult one:

Craft........yes, anytime.LOL
ummm.....spot on
salla...good morning...good weekend?

[Bbbananas]

Fantastic weekend sqad, thank you.
Gave my dad a wonderful 80th birthday party. He couldn't stop smiling & it was heartwarming to see him so happy surrounded by his family & friends. My speech went well - hardly a dry eye in the house (in a happy way!). When he went home (slightly tipsy) he nudged my BF & said "I like you" ! - which is just so unlike my dad! And he told me it had been the best party of his life & one of the best nights of his life. That made me feel so sad somehow - but also pleased he enjoyed it so much. God, how I love that man.

How about you?

[Bbbananas]

sorry sarah - don't mean to take over your thread. This is just an interlude, I promise x

[Roughquest]

Hi sarah. . Believe me. . This is a rocky road to subject yourself to. I am still involved with someone who is extremely jealous and posessive and it is a constant nightmare and a drain on your mental wellbeing. Please ask him to seek help with this it is very destructive. I cant have any male friends. I cant text, email or talk to other men as he goes off on one. He loathes me receiving jokes via text or email from other men, even my own brothers! Stop this before it gets any further. . Please. I wish you luck. X x

[brenda]

Your b/f has a sever problem with his jealousy,this does not have to be your problem. Walk away, leave him to his paranoid life, before you get into the most miserable life you can imagine.

[sophie_1003]

I disagree with some of the posters on here who may be being a bit dismissive of your relationship, my boyfriend is also a very jealous person but he knows he has a problem with this and wants to change, its been a long time since he's trusted me completely but I've always believed we can make it work so I've tried to calmly reassure him that he's the only one and when he's been irrational explained things clearly so that he can see he's only paranoid, it hasn't been easy and it's still not all of the time but things are getting better and I still believe we can make it work.
However, his jealousy was more as a result of paranoia from drugs (which he has now stoppped) so he had to make a change as well, if he hadn't done that then I don't think I would have been as willing to work at our relationship as much as I have.
So what I'm really trying to say is that if you think there is light at the end of the tunnel and he knows that there's a problem you both need to work at then go for it, if he's not on board or you can't see him changing then it'll be a very difficult relationship

[christina69]

You will never convince him he's the only one...i'm sooooo sorry to say....
I was married for 14 years... and in the beginning i thought it was "cute" cause he loved me "so much" he was jealous...blah blah blah... it turned into i lost all my male friends, female friends, i'd get phone calls while i was at work, and an attitude if i wasn't sitting at my desk to answer his calls...and finally stalking me to make sure i was at work, or at the supermarket...
He will never understand...but it's ok if he talks to a female... sorry to say... it doesn't get better, it gets worse...much worse.