Lonely

[nikiqueta]

I am 28yrs old I have had two long standing relationships with guys neither one produced marriage but I do have 4 children out it. I work hard, I am kinda cute, I don't drink, club, I am pretty social. I am not having any luck in the guy area. I haven't been on dates in a while..like a year. Is it the fact that I have 4 kids turning guys away? I am lonely and really want to be married...

[Velvetee]

I really don't know Niki. I personally think men are more open to accepting the children of new partners than women are.

Maybe the solution is to meet another single parent, as I'm sure lots of single fathers have difficulty meeting women too. Perhaps you could join a social club specifically for single parents in your area or an online one. I know they do exist.

[pinktwink]

have you tried dating agenciesor local groups or clubs as a way to meet peopel. Perhaps focus on meeting someone rather than the marriage bit as that may scare men off at the beginnig. Just enjoy their company first

[lil75]

There are many single parents out there...men and women, also there is a dating site for single parents, dont know what its like but it come up as a pop up on my pc...could give that a go?

[gossipgirl]

i know how your feeling because i felt that exact same way a few years ago. I came out of a relationship 7 years ago with a child and my confidence shattered. Even though i was often told how pretty i was and fun to be around i could never find more than just a one night stand {not that i had many} which resulted in me feeling even lower about myself. All my friends were settling down and in relationships i i often find myself feeling really awkward at social events because everyone seemed to have a partner apart from me. After being on my own for 2 years i fell for someone but looking back i think i was just feeling desperate and thought i needed him, and to be honest i know realise that it was nothing more fling really. Anyway that ended badly and i felt really low about myself, it was when i hit rock bottom i realised that i didnt need a man and pulled myself together. I got a job in a bar, lost weight and my confidence grew and grew. It was there i met my partner, i got to know him over months before we got together and im the happiest ive ever been now. We since went on to have a daughter and have bought a house together, and we plan to get married. What im trying to say is that it will happen, you will meet someone. Do you have a job? if ot why not try to get apart time one as you can meet so many people at work. Why not join a agency? theres probably plenty of single fathers on there too.

[yogi.bear]

Hi nikiqueta

Some great advice for you here....nothing new to add except if you do go out on dates from dating agencies, meeting someone from a friend etc....you will KNOW he's the right one, as you'll feel he wants you and the whole package and will accept and love the kids too......when he really gets to love you, and you him, as sure you'll melt him!

All the best to you and keep your chin up, sweetheart!
There are nice guys out there amongst the duds, surely?

yogi

xx

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