histroy of abuse - is it real?

[kdawg]

my current girlfriend is travelling europe at present. she's had a troubled past that she was sexually abused. she is attractive. she often tells me how men often try to grope her. just today she told me that her and her friends fell asleep in a car - there were men in the car who offered to give them a lift. she said her mates made a joke in french to the men that they could kiss her if they gave them a lift. she said they all fell asleep, yet woke up to the guy licking her and trying to kiss her. she turned away pretending to be asleep. she said the man put his
hands on her leg and up her skirt.

i emailed her friends and they say nothing really happened. she seems traumatised. she says she just froze

i don't know what to do.

i am so angry - both for her and for me.

for her as she's had this happen to her before, yet it seems to keep happening. Why? Can she not say no and slap them? Does she flirt? for this happening to her. i want to throttle this guy and her friends.

for me in that it makes me think the worst of her. for me as i feel sorry for myselft, selfishly so. for me in that i feel guilty that i do not always empathise when this is an awful thing to experience.

why is this happening to her ?

is she telling the truth?

what should i do - she is in spain and I offered to come rescue her!!!

[kdawg]

its her!!

[karma22]

Her friends obviously don't know of her past then if she said they made a joke to the men that the men could kiss her if they gave them a lift?

And hitch hiking in a car with strange men is never a good idea!

[kdawg]

same one.

[kdawg]

i know. her friends are absolutely reckless. im seething. irresponsible. there are a lot of dodgy blokes around.

[karma22]

Zacsmaster - do u have an exceptional memory or do you look every user up before you reply?

[kdawg]

no. she's stopped that for me.

[karma22]

well we can't really know if she's telling the truth without actually knowing her. It's a bit odd that she felt this guy licking and kissing and putting his hand up her leg but didn't say anything and pretended to be asleep, however I know it is possible for people to freeze in these situations.

So she was a nude model as well? Didn't she find that hard after being sexually abused?

[cazzz1975]

why are you not together as a couple? sounds very iffy to me. after all this time I would knock it on the head and find a local girl

[karma22]

well I didn't want to say it spacecase but yes thats kinda what I was thinking. Strange that men keep trying to grope her, even stranger that she feels the need to tell you, and yes it doesn't normally happen unless you're giving come on signs