histroy of abuse - is it real?

[kdawg]

my current girlfriend is travelling europe at present. she's had a troubled past that she was sexually abused. she is attractive. she often tells me how men often try to grope her. just today she told me that her and her friends fell asleep in a car - there were men in the car who offered to give them a lift. she said her mates made a joke in french to the men that they could kiss her if they gave them a lift. she said they all fell asleep, yet woke up to the guy licking her and trying to kiss her. she turned away pretending to be asleep. she said the man put his
hands on her leg and up her skirt.

i emailed her friends and they say nothing really happened. she seems traumatised. she says she just froze

i don't know what to do.

i am so angry - both for her and for me.

for her as she's had this happen to her before, yet it seems to keep happening. Why? Can she not say no and slap them? Does she flirt? for this happening to her. i want to throttle this guy and her friends.

for me in that it makes me think the worst of her. for me as i feel sorry for myselft, selfishly so. for me in that i feel guilty that i do not always empathise when this is an awful thing to experience.

why is this happening to her ?

is she telling the truth?

what should i do - she is in spain and I offered to come rescue her!!!

[karma22]

I'm always gonna be on top of my game too now space....learnt a lot from the way my ex treated me !

[kdawg]

vibrasphere! i don;t appreciate those comments. this forum is for advice. you should be ashamed of yourself.

and for your infomation you couldn't be further from the truth. i've never laid a hand on a woman. i was raised by a strong woman and would never lay a hand on anyone.

i'm just a sucker.

[MWB]

Kdawg.

This girlfriend story of yours is just ridiculous & beyond boring!

I"ve given up taking you seriously. Either you're making this up, or you're an idiot!

Not once have you stated you've actually BEEN with her, it's all about her exploits all over the world.

Methinks you're a stalker!

[sara3]

well you could stay with her and we'll all await the next installment, or you could get out and leave her to it. her behaviour is unacceptable for someone who is supposed to be in a relationship.

I suspect we'll be hearing another tale very soon..

[MWB]

I've just thought.

Why are YOU never with this "girlfriend" of yours on her jaunts, kdwag?

She seems to do everything alone!

[Androcles]

Perhaps he's writing a naughty book and just testing out plots?

[kdawg]

i don't know what to say here.

i turned to this website for some impartial objective advice for something that is causing me immense anxiety and i've been accused. its very, very sad.

writing a book? get a grip. this is a outrageous predictment i'm in so imagine, what you perceive to be a fantasy and unbelievable is a reality for me.

to those cynical individuals, I hope you feel it was worth it. i'd really ask everyone not to reply as i can't deal with having to defend myself here.

[kdawg]

thanks vibrasphere. i'm trying to deal with it. its all hitting me at once ( job too) and i feel like im falling apart. i'd consider myself strong, yet having a big heart means when i fall, i fall hard.