Does he love me

[TT2009]

I know this will sound nuts but I have been seeing a wonderful guy for two months now. He comes and sees me almost every day. Texts me when we are not together and we chat online for hours too. He holds my hands when we watch tv and smiles at me all the time. We both find each other very attractive too. He has a lot of baggage but still comes to see me. I have really fallen for him but I'm unsure if he loves me. Do actions speak louder than words? Please help!

[B00]

He's with you isn't he? He at least cares for you alot, isn't that enough to be going with?

Alot of people, myself included, dont need to be told or tell someone they love them, he could just be like that.

Give the guy a break, he's with you, he's good to you, and seems good for you- be happy with that, and it has only been 2 months :-)

[ummmm]

Do you love him?

[TT2009]

Yeah I do!!

[ummmm]

Tell him then.

[TT2009]

I'm sacred of rejection tho as I am quite insecure.

[ummmm]

Text him them and put on the end 'luv ya'

It's not so formal and that's what my BF use to do to me in the beginning. It sounded more like a friendly gesture.

[TT2009]

LOL thanks for your advice, I think I will try that one. At the moment I keep saying "miss ya" and he always says "me too" Think I need to be brave huh!

[ummmm]

He now texts 'I love you'

Don't be scared of rejection. I use to reply to my BF that I was very fond of him..... lol.

[B00]

I know ummmm's not suggesting it, but I really wouldn't push this getting him to say those 3 words too far.

You yourself says he's carrying baggage, and he could just be a bit wary?

I'll stress again- it's only been 2 months, dont rush it.

I can imagine there's nothing more off-putting than someone constantly badgering you to utter 3 small words, that frankly dont mean all that much if not backed up with actions.

[pastafreak]

I would take it easy also. As you say-you've not known him veryy long-you are still in the 'infatuation' stage.Nice tho it is-love may come after having a few highs andlows in your blossoming relationship. Just enjoy what you DO have,and give love a chance to grow.

[ummmm]

I also agree with BOO. I wasn't sure if I loved him after 2 months. Early days so just enjoy it how it is.

[TT2009]

Thanks everyone for your great advice. I guess I have to just take one day at a time and see what happens. Thank you.

[4getmenot]

If you do say it and he doesnt say it back dont be hurt or take it as rejection. When I first got with my bloke he kept telling me he loved me and I wouldnt say it back, because I didnt want it to just be a thing I wanted to really mean it. 2 and a bit years down the line I love him to bits :-)