My girlfriend is completely imune to me.

[willchr2004]

Iv been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 6 months, and everything is great. Im currently away in south america and i occasionally talk to her about sex and get as i get a little horny from time to time. In doing so, i have found out that I could get completely naked, tlk dirty until my hearts content, and she is not physically attracted to any part of me besides my face. She tells me its been the same for her with every guy, but i cant help but think it to be a massive insult. It really upsets me because the mere thought of her can do it for me. Should I be worried? Its doing my head in :(

Thanks,
Chris

[beso]

People are different. Indeed it seems sometimes we are made up of different people ourselves.

I asume she has considered the possiblity she is gay.

[ummmm]

Men are so much more attractive with their clothes on...!!

I think the fact is, men are much more visual than women. Personally I wouldn't worry about it.

[piggynose]

hello willchr2004, relax, you´re making exactly the same mistake most men make. you expect her to think as a man, or the same as you. stop there. as for talking about sex to her, how? on the phone. 6months, thats nothing. how much time have you lived together? a strong relationship needs lots of things, eg a little bit of give and take, compromise, and would you beleive it women love the small things in life, from a rose to a sincere compliment. by the sounds of things, it seems to be all about you.

[ummmm]

Piggynose has said it better than me :-)

My partner bought me a bottle of Moet last night. If it wasn't for the fact that he drank half of it then fell asleep I would've been up for it :-)

[willchr2004]

When it comes to romantic gestures, i do it all. I dont know how u got that impression! I bought her roses, sent her a MASSIVE box which when opened, balloons fly out saying 'i love you' and theres chocolate in it, and i sent her a letter since iv been away too. Im definately more of a giver than her, but she has no money so it doesnt bother me. What impied its all about me!?
She used to get with girls and has indeed had one experience when she was young with the same sex, but so did I and it was anything but sexual, more experimental and naive due to age.
But no, we have a great amount of sex, she claims its good too. I just think to myslef...wow, shes compeletely imune to my body, yet im head over heels for her petit body, yet large chest... I cant imagine anyone here would like to be told that theyr completely unsexy :(

[willchr2004]

oh yeh, sorry, on skype. She occasionally gets naked for me, and i do for her. The difference is shes like, yeh, whatever and im like...WOW! And im not exactly ugly, I know this because Im a model, but still...makes me sad face!

[ummmm]

You don't have much sex or you do?

Like I said...men are more visual than women. She cannot respond to your romantic gestures if she not with you. If I walked in on my naked boyfriend....I feel nothing. If he walked in on me naked he'll react. To him...naked body = sex. I also would not get turned on by sexual talk over the phone...or just thinking about him.

[ummmm]

Like piggynose said....men and women are different. If I'm not in the mood he'd have to make an effort to get me in the mood. He's always in the mood. If he woke me up in the morning he likely to get a slap. If I woke him he'd think I was the best GF in the world...

[willchr2004]

HAHA. Fair enough! I can see this. To answer someones question - yes, i get sex, i have no problem with the amount. My issue is that it doesnt do wonders for my confidence thinking that im not at all sexy...
Then again, what these girls are saying is that that's normal? Girls are less visual (hence less female targeted porn?) and require physical stimulus?

Would i be correct in assuming that u guys think i need to face the fact that thats the way girls are generally? If so, i guess there is no problem?

[cazzz1975]

women are definately less visual than men, I think this is pretty normal, women like it some things left to the imagination hense the guy being sexier with clothes on than butt naked.

[ummmm]

I would say that there is no problem at all. I find my BF sexy....but not for his body alone. I don't think he could get me in the mood unless he was next to me.

[willchr2004]

my friend put it in a very sensible way. She claimed:

maybe shes not a visual person, maybe shes more of a physical person who responds far better to touch. That makes perfect sense to me!

Who would agree wth that?

[ummmm]

Absolutely....

[ummmm]

Maybe you should see it like she is making an effort for you. Something that obviously doesn't come naturally. So she must really like you...alot..!!

[Nay35]

I get what you are all saying but I have been with my Boyfriend a year and 5 months and I still find him as attractive as the day I met him. He looks fit in a suit but even better with nothing on.

[Nay35]

To me it is very visual but as you all say everyone is different.

[willchr2004]

cheers peeps. This does make alot of sense. Dont get me wrong, she is attracted to me, she tells me im better looking than her, shes just not into me being naked. But as said, not everyone is visual. She enjoys physicality, as is clear as i have no complaints about the amount of action i get.