sex with a married man

[ooh-la-la]

I meet a guy 4 weeks ago, went on a date with him and we got on really well. On the second date we had sex i began to like him even more. I meet him for the third time yesterday and after we had sex he told me he was married. I felt so crap, i just don't know what to do, i stayed with him for about a hour after he told me (without having sex) and he explained everything to me, even though he loves her they're sex life is rubbish, so he just needs someone to fill in that part. I don't really want a lot of commitment and i know if he's not doing it with me he'll find someone else, but then i keep thinking about his wife in the back of my mind. Owww, what a mess, i just don't know what to do what would you do if you were me?

[mccfluff]

if it upsets you then stay away from him.

[ummmm]

What about my question Sqad?

[cazzz1975]

If the man was unhappy with the relationship maybe he should talk to his wife and if it were not resolvable then maybe its time for him to walk away, he would only feel resentful otherwise.

of course it takes balls to deal with the problem, the easy solution is to sleep around and kid yourself that you are happy

[ooh-la-la]

i wouldn't of forget me not, but i've spent time with him now, and i do have some feelings for him, plus the sex is great :-( and we do have a giggle together. I don't know who is wife is

[nextqueen]

i would walk away, think how his wife would feel, think how you would feel if this happened to you. im a great believer in Karma, hes a cheat and a liar, selfish and a dirty dog, only thinking about what is in his pants. if he can do it to his wife, he could do it to you .

[ummmm]

You have feelings after 3 dates?

[Sqad]

ummmm sorry......yes it could be just a line, but in my experience the celibate marriages predominate.

[ooh-la-la]

He loves her and they have a child together, but she just doesn't want sex any more. I don't know if this is the truth but he told me they haven't done it for three years

[ummmm]

There's a lot to be said for not jumping into the sack too quickly....

[LoftyLottie]

Same old story I'm afraid. 'Sex life is rubbish'. I doubt it. It's just another man who wants a bit on the side. Walk away please. You are worth more than this.

[cazzz1975]

he will tell you whatever he thinks will get him sex...a sob story.

[ooh-la-la]

lol!!! yes ummmmmm, i can't help it, i just get carried away whenever i meet a guy, then he goes and upsets me and they disapear as quickly as they came

[ummmm]

I agree Sqad...I know enough men to know that's more likely. I also know some that would do it 'just because they can'

I also know many faithful men.

[ooh-la-la]

hey!!!!! i didn't do it on the first date!!!! lol!!!

[ummmm]

You can help it....it's easy. Just say no...and stop hurting yourself.

This may sound harsh but men like him go for girls like you.

[LoftyLottie]

Sqad: A serious question. Do you think if your wife thought her sex life was rubbish she should go elsewhere or is it just a man's perogative (sp?)

[ummmm]

Second date....not much better.

[ummmm]

Lofty....I think she has before..!!

[4getmenot]

and the child is 2. lol Every bloke would say that, I can guarantee he is still sleeping with her, it was just an excuse at the time he told you so he didnt feel that bad.

[Robinia]

They have a child? Did it occur to you that she doesn't want sex (at the moment) because she's could be having another one?
If you continue to see this man knowing what you do then you are as bad as he is.