sex with a married man

[ooh-la-la]

I meet a guy 4 weeks ago, went on a date with him and we got on really well. On the second date we had sex i began to like him even more. I meet him for the third time yesterday and after we had sex he told me he was married. I felt so crap, i just don't know what to do, i stayed with him for about a hour after he told me (without having sex) and he explained everything to me, even though he loves her they're sex life is rubbish, so he just needs someone to fill in that part. I don't really want a lot of commitment and i know if he's not doing it with me he'll find someone else, but then i keep thinking about his wife in the back of my mind. Owww, what a mess, i just don't know what to do what would you do if you were me?

[cazzz1975]

I would walk away.

[Sqad]

Seems normal to me...........is wife can't give him what you can, then if it suits you, then carry on.

[Greedyfly]

I would be gutted and I would leave him to his own devices. I would never be the 'other woman' - you have to ask yourself how would you feel if you were his wife?

[ummmm]

I'd do what I did when it happened to me.....walk away.

I didn't sleep with him on the second date though so his deceit went on for much longer before he fessed up.

[redcrx]

put yourself in the wifes shoes.
Her husband loves her but thinks sex is rubbish. How cruel can he possibly be?

walk away.

[Robinia]

He could be saying the very same thing to lots of other women.
He might not be married at all, just dodging commitment.

[Greedyfly]

If they had an open marriage/relationship then its a different matter but it doesn't seem that way by what you have said. He sounds like a real dog.

[4getmenot]

as you said think how you'd feel being the wife. Leave now.

[ummmm]

And think what will happen if she does find out...she could be a psycho..!

[Sqad]

It always amazes me that if a wife is happy with a celibate marriage, she expects her husband to want that too. If the husband is happy with going through the rest of his life without sex, then so be it, but I cannot think of ANY that I have known would have accepted that.

[Greedyfly]

If I were the wife and I found out god help him. He wouldn't be able to sit down for a very long time =)

[supersuezy24]

Walk away you'll just get hurt!

[Nosha123]

what a Finance Specialist!
He was dis-honest with you and is only looking for good sex! Nice bloke!

you can do better... and I'm sure his wife could too!

Us girls should stick together and not shag other mens husbands...

[ummmm]

Sqad...you seriously don't think it's just a line? Bit like 'my wife doesn't understand me'

[Sqad]

Grredfly....how logical is that reply?
You withdraw sexual pleasures form him (because you don't want it) and when he looks elsewhere,//// He wouldn't be able to sit down for a very long time =)///

Could you please explain the rationale?

[4getmenot]

Can I ask? if he had told you before you had sex that he was married would you have still done it?

[supersuezy24]

Tell his missus, she might think the sex is great and not have a clue that he doesn't..

[ooh-la-la]

i thought the majority of people would say that. I think that's why i came on here really. ow robinia, he told me has has slept with a few other women in the past, and told most of them the situation. God i can't tell you how crap i feel, i was crying on the way home, and to make things worse this isn't the first time a married man has tryed it on with me. Why do men do it!!!!?????? AAAARRRRRHHHHH!!

[carmalee]

depends what your standards are - if you want sex without committment and can live with the fact 'your chap' is despicable, cheating on his wife instead working the problem out with her - go for it - probably chaper for him than paying for it anyway.

[Sqad]

nosha...
////what a Finance Specialist!
He was dis-honest with you and is only looking for good sex! Nice bloke! you can do better... and I'm sure his wife could too!

Us girls should stick together and not shag other mens husbands...///

Best laugh of the day.