Is your partner romantic? Mine isn't

[dollypins]

I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months now. He still lives at home with his parents and I still live at home with mine. We don't get much of a chance to be alone and when we do, we obviously relish any opportunity to have jiggy jiggy.
He has never done anything romantic for me at all though. He never tells me I look nice, he just comments on my boobs or bum really. He doesn't hold my hand very often either. Does romance develop over time? or do you think the fact we can't be alone very often hinders the romance?
I don't want to drop hints because I don't want him to be forced into doing things he doesn't want to.

[poodicat]

Early days,but not a good sign!

[4getmenot]

If romance is what you need you are with th wrong guy, you cant change him. I think flowers, meals, chocs, little gifts etc arent that romantic anyway when done all the time, they lose meaning. I'd rather a surprise every now and then just a little something like going out and bringing me home a wispa bar is sweet, or just little things he says every so often.

[Prudie]

This would suggest he is not the romantic type as it would have shown up by now I'm afraid.

[pastafreak]

If the romance is not there in the beginning-when all is new-it's never going to be there. Sounds like it is just jiggy jiggy for him.....if that's all you want-fine. If not-get rid now.

[karenmac60]

Romance was invented by women for women. I've yet to meet a man who does any of those things, and if one did I'd probably wonder what he was up to ;) If you get along well and he shows he cares about you in other ways then don't worry about grand gestures and 'romance', I think most women sit thinking that every other woman has a romantic partner and they're the only one who doesn't. But if it really bothers you then talk to him - dropping hints is useless cos they appear not to get them so you keep dropping them only to be told they heard you the first time so you feel like a nag. Talking about it isn't forcing him to do anything, it's just telling him how you feel.

[AlBags]

I'm quite romantic Prudie.

[Garmard]

I often believe that romance comes early into a relationship and fades over time, depending on how you are with each other. It is unusual for a relationship to lack romance from early on......but that is me?

[rowanwitch]

romance usually comes first before the other....I think you said yes too soon so he didn't have to practice the romantic stuff

[Prudie]

I think you are Albags and sure you can do better than saying nice boobs!

[Garmard]

For a bloke i am readily romantic.....but often fail to get it right.

[4getmenot]

karen very true, that woman who I said about on here yesterday splitting u with her boke admitted she hadnt loved him for years, yet every valentines she'd be on facebook saying 'My man has bought me 12 red roses, taken me out for a meal etc. I think alot of the time its something for a girl to show off about.

[Prudie]

Complimenting a woman on her appearance or holding hands and being cuddly is surely a given in a relationship rather being the definition of romantic in the hearts and flowers meaning.

[Prudie]

^ rather 'than'

[dollypins]

Thanks for answering but your answers have made me feel more upset. I am desperate to be cuddled or even a small gesture. He's not bought me anything at all. All my mate's boyfriends have bought them teddy bears, nice underwear or flowers.
I don't even get called babe or hun etc, he just calls me by my name. I really want him to be my serious boyfriend and the sex is too amazing to give up. I don't know what to do

[karenmac60]

In that case, can you have a word with Mr Mac Prudie?

[AlBags]

I used to leave little love messages especially hidden on the bathroom mirror for my ex, so she would see them when it got steamed up for her bath.
Her mate got to know and started leaving other messages. Funny at the time.

[4getmenot]

dolly why do you want things bought for you? Do you think that is what love is? I can understand the cuddles etc, but thats nothing to do with romance thats affection and maybe he's just not the affectionate type you long for.

[AlBags]

Dolly ...
Have you/can you chat to your bf about this problem .. ?
Or is one of you in the cave?

[4getmenot]

awww albags now that is romance and funny at same time. My kinda man ;-)

[AlBags]

lol thanks 4Get x