Falling for the wrong man

[dollypins]

I recently came on this site to have a moan about my boyfriend being unromantic. Anyway, to cut a long story short, someone else has been paying me a lot of attention and I am loving it. I feel so guilty but I am really falling for this bloke, only trouble is, it's my boyfriend's father. He's in his early 40s and he is totally gorgeous/caring and considerate. He's always paying me compliments and I can just talk to him about anything. We've only hugged and we kissed on the weekend. I cannot stop thinking about him and am making any excuse to my boyfriend to go back to his.
I don't know what to do. I love my boyfriend but I need this attention that I am getting from my bf's dad. He is very handsome and I think he really likes me too.
I've not told anyone about this, not even my best friend. Just wanted some advice really or to see if anyone has been in the same/similar situation?
Please don't be harsh, I know it's wrong but I can't help my feelings.

[China Doll]

You can always help your feelings, it's called a brain. It might not tell you the same, nice, squishy things your feelings say but it's damn helpful for anything else.

Basically, common sense says that a good person does not make the move on their sons Mrs. Said Mrs should realise this is a deal breaker as far as happy families go.

Options left are to, regardless of brain, enjoy, encourage and indeed sleep with father and ruin a family. Or talk to your fella about what you feel is lacking in your relationship. Or get rid of both, concentrate on you and get your head out out of the proverbial as it's clearly a bad situation.

Believe it or not, this is actually me being nice. Just engage your brain for crying our loud!

[4getmenot]

Either forget about the dad and get on with sorting your current relationship out, or leave your bloke. I personally think you should leave him, you have now cheated on him by kissing his father and you shouldnt be with him if you have feeings for someone else anyway

[rowanwitch]

Where is boyfriends mum in all this?

[waterboatman]

Good advice dolly. Engage brain. From a blokes point of view, you cannot undo what is done. You are not getting what you need from your BF. I can see only one option. You must get out of both relationships. When it comes out into the open, and it will, I assure you, a family will be destroyed. BF's mother is not going to thank you, or her husband, is she! BF is not going to thank you, or his father is he! His father will blame you. No option really, is there.

You will find the attention and romance you need, but not in this situation. All I can see is heartache and pain all round, and very soon too.

[brenda]

You are heading for big trouble in this scenario, you may well break up the entire family .Try talking to your boyfriend about the things that are wrong between you , and stay away from the father.He isn't much a man in my view to even think about getting off with his son's girlfriend.The consequences of you encouraging the father are really too awful to think about-- you are on very dangerous ground here .

[carmalee]

really think you should take a long hard look at the situation. How caring is your BF's father if he is willing to cheat on his own son? -in the nicest possible way - grow up.

[redcrx]

"caring and considerate"
i beg to differ if he can do this behind his sons back

walk away from both

[pastafreak]

You are extremely vulnerable,and the father-scumbag that he is-is taking advantage. It's wrong-even if there is no wife in sight.
Get rid of both-and find yourself. What you are doing is wrong...you are old enough to know that,I assume.

[lotsafun]

absolutley no good is going to come of this dolly, his father is bang out of order for taking advantage of your vunerability and you are out of order for cheating on you BF with his DAD of all people for christs sake. End it with them both before your bf finds out and hope and pray that he never does. Sorry to sound harsh but compared to a father and son bond you are nothing to them, the pair of them will drop you like a hat within a second. as the saying goes 'blood is thicker than water'.

[CuteToni]

Cheatings cheating, no matter how you dress it up. Break up with your boyfriend as you cant love him if you're arseing around with his dad.

[boxtops]

Nicely put toni - in a nutshell!!

[moskaski]

Walk away