rejection

[lotsafun]

im so frustrated, i was rejected for the first time ever last night by my partner last night and to put it lightly im absolutley gutted. Its really knocked me and im feeling fragile today because of it. Weve had issues for a while,at one point we didnt have sex for nearly 15 months after the birth of our daughter but i thought we got back on track and things were great between us again. we are very affectionate towards eachother in every other way and were best friends but im satrting to worry that thats all we may be. We were cwtching up in bed last night and it was about to lead to 'IT' when all of a sudden he got up and said he needed to go to the loo, after 10 mins he returned only to turn the channel over on the telly and start watching queen of the frickin damned. Needless to say i got my back up about this and evenmoreso when he said 'come on then, are you going to finish what you started'. I didnt.....i went to sleep instead, frustrated, annoyed and upset. I brought the subject up this morning only for him to jokenly call me a c!@ktease which upset me more, he then got upset because i basically told him that the past several times that weve done it its all been me instegating it, me performing the foreplay and then me doing the work (which it has) and to be quite frank that im not getting anything out of it. Ive even caught him watching telly when were doing it! the argument got quite heated and asked him outright if there was someone else in the picture, which he strenuously denies and i do believe him. I asked him if he fancies me anymore which again he said he does and that his world would finish if he didnt have me and the kids etc. Hes become incredibly selfish in bed and i dont know why? sex is a chore , im not getting anything out of it, he barely touches me, he litrelly lies back and thinks of wales.

[4getmenot]

I would say talk to him about it and how you feel but it seems he just seems to laugh it off, try again and say you are serious that you need some reassurance. And next time turn the tv off whilst you do it.

[rowanwitch]

No take the telly out of the room altogether replace it with a vase of flowers and some candles.....

[cazzz1975]

sounds to me like he isnt interested, he is taking the sex because its on offer but he has no interest in you or satisfying you.

I would be having words with him, if there is no change then you may want to consider what you want out of life.