Im trouble with the opposite sex :)

[fitforaking]

I'm having some sexual problems. I've been seeing this guy for the past 9 years although we split up 2 years ago but were still having sex. Anyway obviously i love this guy but feel its now time to split up for real as our relationship hasnt been working out. Anyway, thats not the problem. The problem is that I'm being very promiscuous. I'm getting lots of attention from guys, none of which are bf material, and im not even sure that i need a new bf right now. I need to learn how to say NO and stick to it. Last night i slept with a close friend, we had fun more than sex so i suppose its alright, but I hadnt set out to get involved with him, its one of these things that just happened. Im scared that now im single again after all these years that I'm going to turn into a right tart. Any info on how to keep men at bay haha

[B00]

I fail to see what you're doing wrong?

As long as you're taking precautions, and not seeing attached guys- go for it.

[fitforaking]

Hey, thanks :) Probably just what I was needing to hear! Suppose im just out of touch a bit since being in a relationship for so long... I like your answer.

[redcrx]

And be honest with the long term guy. Make sure he's aware that you are both free to sleep with others and that you are no longer in a relationship with him

[fitforaking]

yeah to be honest there is still a part of me that doesnt know if splitting with him is the right thing to do, but i dont think i can be in love with him the same if I'm sleeping with other people now. He knows that we are split up but wanted to try and sort things out with me, but after sleeping with other people i feel there is no way on earth i can go back now, especially after last night, as it was one of his friends i had a thing with. Also my friend too. Suppose Im just feeling a bit guilty and i dont want anyone to get hurt, but I am free and single now, so its up to me what i do... I hope i've made the right decision.

[looby1914]

If your not happy then you need to leave your current partner.... you are then free to see or do what you want with anyone you want :D Aslong as your safe

[karenmac60]

I was with my ex for 10 years and I was the same when we split - you're just making up for lost time and enjoying your freedom, as long as you don't take stupid risks then what's the problem? I wouldn't recommend sleeping with the ex though - it may give him false hope and it'll stop both of you from moving on. As you say you're feeling guilty about what you've been doing, and I bet you're not telling him about it cos you think you've done something wrong. You'll keep on feeling that way as long as you are having some sort of relationship with him and it'll keep you both in limbo. Aside from that though, enjoy yourself! :) x

[4getmenot]

When I split up with my first boyfriend, I went a bit mental with the one night stands. I was careful and just having fun, didnt see problem with it. Then when I was ready to settle I found a lovely bloke and now been with him 3 years. Maybe its just because you dont want to get close to anyone right now. Its everyones right to do what they want to do as long as you dont hurt people in the process.

[woofgang]

When you are tempted, look at the guy and ask yourself if you would use his toothbrush???

[McMouse]

Hey life isn't a rehearsal. Take Boo's advice and just make sure you're happy with yourself.

[joeluke]

If it feels good do it

[Mcdade]

its good getting other peoples points of view on this. I agree with boo