what do I do :(

[notnotnot]

Me and my boyfriend have just broke up. We've not had the best year together & if i'm honest somedays were awful. Things is guys we have a holiday booked in a weeks time abroad for two weeks...He said we'd both pay our half of the holiday and not go...I agreed then realised I didnt want to pay a lot of money for nothing. Since then Ive tried calling him 4x, text him 3x, hes deleted me and family off his facebook and is really blatenly ignoring me.

When I called him i left 2 voicemails. I asked him if he could get in touch because I still was going on the holiday and if it was ok for me to maybe find someone to buy his half...No reply.

Whenever we fall out he always runs off to his mum & slags me :( It makes me feel Sugar. I know he's done it again hes so predictable. Guys I really dont know what to do and how to handle the situation :(. What do I do? :( Hes 27 and im 23. I really feel so rubbish. x

[4getmenot]

whos name has the holiday been booked in?

[sara3]

well he doesn't make you feel good about yourself, and he's obviously stomped off for whatever reason. you need to back way off.

contact the travel agent re changing the holiday details, go away and enjoy yourself. you sound like you need a break.

[cazzz1975]

can you not go with a friend?

btw he sounds like a prize t0sser

[4getmenot]

its either been booked under your name or his. If under his then leave him to pay the whole lot, if under yours ring travel agents and sort it with your mate

[cazzz1975]

excellent... ;)

[notnotnot]

He booked it...so I think it will be in his name since he is older than me. :( I would just walk away if it wasnt for the holiday but I dont want to pay money for nothing. I could really use a break Ive really had a hard time lately. Its just he's ignoring me etc and nothing will get sorted out this way :( I had loads of old things on his ebay selling and he also went and dleeted them all off without even telling me :(

Should I just leave him and pay money for a holiday I wont be going on? x

[snags]

''If under his then leave him to pay the whole lot''

I'd do the above...

[4getmenot]

you dont have to pay, as I said if in his name they will contact him, maybe he's decided to take a mate, if not and he tries contacting you to get money dont answer calls just like he didnt.

[notnotnot]

If he decides to take a mate do I need to sign my name over? xoxox

[4getmenot]

well if you do, dont answer calls, he'll then foot the whole bill

[askyourgran]

How do you know he hasn't cancelled the holiday?

[sogudsam]

If he takes a mate it means he has to pay for all of the holiday. Can you gat in touch with the holiday company to see what they can do. Surely they can't take your deposit for someone else. Think I would use the money you save by not going and use it to have a holiday somewhere you want to go and more importantly with someone you like even somewhere cheaper. Going with him would surely be a strain. Try to get over him it'll be best in the long run as he can't care truely for you to keep doin this.

[notnotnot]

yea I know. I dont know whats on his mind since he's ignoring me. He may have cancelled, he may have someone else...Im not sure whats going on I have tried to ask and get in touch but hes ignoring me. :(

I dont know how to react because one minute i'm angry the next I cry. He'll be badmouthing me to everyone & I havent even said anything to anyone. :( I feel soo soo horrible :(

[cazzz1975]

you would be better off keeping your distance from him, he sounds like an idiot.

[China Doll]

Regardless of how horrible you're feeling, (I'm sorry, I know that sounds callous but my answer is in context of the question), you have said that the holiday is booked in his name so I'm afraid it doesn't sound like you're going so perhaps you could try and find something else relaxing and diverting to do with the time. The rest of the horrible feeling stuff I'm afraid you just have to muddle through and time will generally help that which unfortunately is a cliche but also true.

[notnotnot]

I know guys. Chinadoll you are correct. There is nothing I can do...Guess with the spending money Ive saved up I could perhaps bbuy myself something nice to cheer me up. Thanks people for the answers/advice. Thank you. x

[jno]

just in case this trurns even nastier - keep a record of the times you've tried to contact him to discuss what he wants to do about it. Strictly speaking, you made a deal with him to pay half. If he wants to start suing you (I don't know but if it was expensive he might) you need to be able to show that you did your best to sort things out with him before abandoning the whole idea.

[joko]

test him an tell him straight - if he doesnt allow you to take a mate you will not pay a penny for the ticket...he cannot force you an he will have to poay both...he'll soon answer

[Le Chat]

..and please, never get back with him. He really is a knob!! x

[Eve]

Difficult! When I broke up with my last ex we had a holiday to New York booked for a few weeks after. We had both always wanted to go and in the end decided to still go and actually had a brilliant time though we were still living together as well and he had started seeing someone else as it was pretty amicable. Even shared a bed though completely platonically.

Sounds like he is going to be a kn*b about it though! Could he have cancelled it and kept all the money? I'd want to make sure that didn't happen if at all possible though not to the point it just causes unecessary problems as sometimes it's just better to walk away.