how do you know when......

[Leapers]

How do you know when is the right time to end a relationship??? Or is it worth trying some more??

thanks

[karenmac60]

When you dread going home. When you see them as the enemy (maybe the same way you saw your parents when you were a teenager). When them being in the same room as you makes you angry for no reason. When you just can't see any point going on.

[ummmm]

When you don't love them anymore.

[boxtops]

when it's neither here or there whether you care about what they are doing, and whether they give a t0ss about what you are doing or how you are feeling.

[milly-tint]

I guess lots of things influence the factors... do you have kids together? a joint home? Are you still in love? Are there 'issues' you could work on? Come on, you're not telling us enough to give you a proper answer!

[Leapers]

We're not married or have kids. we have been together just over a year which i know is not long but lately things have been a little rocky between us, we will have random fights about nothing really and then we're fine again until the next one. we are both having a busy time at the moment with work commitments changing etc so aren't seeing each other as much which is causing a few more arguments i think. I don't know at the moment all is well again but who knows until something gets said and we have another fight. i just wasnt sure whether this was signalling the end or whether its just a phase for a while.

[boxtops]

Not being around together can be difficult, misunderstandings can easily arise. Happens a fair bit if both partners either work different shifts or are away a lot. If it feels right, give it a bit longer..... it helps if you can sit down during a good time, and try to sort out differences of opinions about the things which often give rise to the arguments. You might find that sometimes you just have to agree to differ.

[welshlibranr]

It's when you just do not want to be in the same space any more!..........you'll know if this happens!..............no mistaking it!............you'll feel the need to get away!........

[askyourgran]

Ask yourself how you feel about your partner, do you really care if you see him/her every day? Have a heart to heart and talk about it.

[craft1948]

When the bad times outweigh the good ones......

[Leapers]

Thanks boxtops i think you are right, we do talk about arguing so much but usually after the argument so we are both a little angry or whatever. I am the kind of person who would rather brush things under the carpet and when thats full start with under the sofa cushions!! But he is a little more open with his feelings and always wants to discuss why i am being 'this way' which i think is putting alot more of the blame on me then i deserve, i think we are both wrong and need our heads banging together!

[madmaggot]

Well............... I knew it was the right time to end it when someone said they thought he might be having an affair with a woman he worked with
and
I really didn't care!

[juandelacruz]

This is individual, personal. I don't think it's worth trying; patching up will more than likely result in another failure. And for God's sake, don't let counsellors meddle and tell you what you ought to feel. They are another ghastly US invention that should have stayed there.