do men with partners watch porn or do i need to worry

[babsthebunny]

i have been on my partners laptop and well i seem to find is port and weather sites and of coruse facebook but i am not bothered about most of then but the porn sites. we dont do it that often cos he is tired after work and i am at work late some night but should i let it go and let him watch porn or how do i let him know it is not right i have in the passed and he just flips not in a violant way but not happy when i ask him if he wanks when i am not about he just wont tell me what is wrong with him or is it me should i not know that kind of think we have been together now 5 years and we live together


please help me

[ummmm]

Teach him to browse 'incognito'

[snags]

Something re-pe-ti-tive...

[snags]

''Anyone eles done this''

Nope... never sh@gged your missus on the floor in front of the TV...

[babsthebunny]

thanks i have just been on the phone to him and said have you watch porn this morning as heard something like porn and he lied to me saying it is to early to watch porn but i know he did cos it was on his history page i dont mind the porn but lie about it lieing to me is a big point in it as i have trust issues cos of pased problems with my ex cheating on me 5 times and hitting me and then when i got with current partner he lied about hings and doesnt let me see his phone and when he gets a text he doesnt tell me who it is

[bednobs]

no, eddie, i'm more of an "on the sofa" person than on the floor

[China Doll]

I've never shagged your Mrs either...

[China Doll]

Well if you're constantly on his case (which it sounds like you are) then he probably lied to avoid a row. Not ideal but your insecurity isn't his problem...

[bednobs]

if you make him feel dirty and wrong about it, no wonder he lies! Also, who was at the other end of the phone, perhaps he was with his workmates?

[babsthebunny]

he wont watch porn with me and we dont sit together as he is on laptop most of the night or having a fag or drink

[gingejbee]

Some people need to find out about "Private" (Firefox) or "In Private" (IE) - problem partly solved!

[ummmm]

You're with the wrong person then....

[babsthebunny]

i dont have a go at him about things but we always said that we would be open about think i tell him if i have done something and he asked me who texted me and i tell him should i lie to him aswell tooooo then i recon not i dont lie and i dont hide thinks i am open as a book and there was no one at work with him he is on his own so that wouldnt bother him and even if there was they all talk about porn to each other as one of his work mates is call the porn king ect....

[bednobs]

seriously lovvey, you are talking to the wrong people here. Clearly this bothers you so you need to be talking to him. And by talking to him, i don't mean "have you been watching porn"

[ummmm]

You sound very insecure to be honest.

[babsthebunny]

so really it is my problem and i have to deal with it. i am a unsucure person that asked for to much i am not wanting put downs i just wanted to know if it was ok for a man with a lover of 5 years to hide porn and not talk about Auditing when we are having a joke about and stuff i just feel that why watch porn when u have the real thing right next to him every day or night

[bednobs]

yes, it really is your problem

[B00]

Yes is the short answer.

And to be blunt, i'd lie to you too if you asked me such a question. He must feel like he's a 5 year old getting told of by his mum.

Let him do this in private i he so wants, and he obviously does, it could be worse you know.

Just let it go.