Like a girl. She doesn't like me back. Can't get over her. What to do?

[codemister]

There is a girl I like alot. I'm in 9th grade. I've only had about 2 relationships in my life. I've told her how much I like her and she was okay with it but she also said that she doesn't feel the same way about me. She likes a guy in 12th grade. I don't have really good looks. I don't really have any athletic abilities. I am not all too impressive. The only thing I have is my personality. I want to get over her but i've tried before and I can't. I've liked her for 4 years. She is the only person in the world that makes me happy. Also, not like I can move on anyways as no other girls in my school likes me either. :( Kinda stuck. I have no idea what to do now. I had hopes and dreams but all were crushed when she told me she didn't feel the same way. I now have severe depression. I can barely get around any more. My self-confidence is gone. I am falling into a hole i'm afraid i can never get out of. She is the only girl i've ever felt this way about. I need somebody to tell me how to deal with this sort of situation.

[mike11111]

Puppy love sucks, believe me, I know, but you will get over it.

[Mamyalynne]

Mike has it right, this kind of love is all consuming, you will not believe it but you will pull through, we all did.
The crush she has presently will pass, just keep an eye and ask how she is now and again but do not be too intrusive.
Love hurts.

Mamya ♥

[MarkRae]

Quite...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=soDZBW-1P04

[Mamyalynne]

Night night MarkRae♥

[codemister]

I agree. But I like no one else. No one likes me. So maybe i'll get over her but where do I go from there?

[mike11111]

Who says no one likes you? Keep smiling, be friendly to all but not OTT, cast your bread upon the waters, you will be surprised at what comes back.

[what..the?]

she obviously doesn't know what she is missing, you seem a great guy, being able to kick a ball around or do push ups is not what life's about. If that other person sucks at conversation, and emotional chit chat, personality, that's what you have in buckets!

Chances are he won't want to go out with her because it will effect 'his all important world' one where she 'doesn't fit' a world or on line bragging, posing about and being a general jack ass who will end up working in car phone warehouse.

I would say wait it out, she will see 'your' the best catch because you care about 'her' and nothing else can beat that, but......if she is too selfish and into herself to see you for 'you' and all the good points then she is surely not worth it.....

If nothing else matters and walking away is no option, have you tried working out at home get yourself some free weights not expensive and a very good hobby and good for the mind too. Learn to play the drums or guitar girls like that, find out what hobbies she's into and any unisex ones you could take up, Find all new ways to be the coolest kid in school and don' t run around outwardly advertising your feelings for her because she will run to the hills. Maybe try and make her realise what she's missing with another girl maybe her friend or give her the cold shoulder she might come running back, some girls like a challenge, or just panic when they see some thing being lost for good and just grab at it last minute. These are all things I said aren't important in life and what you are 'now' is 'the real you' and never to be changed for just 'some girl' but hey you asked for advice not chocolate box, on the fence views that won't actually advise...you of anything

and lastly and most important don't be blinded by the one girl, you say there's no one else you like and none of the other girls fancy you but when you have been looking in just one direction for 4 years you could hav

[codemister]

Okay. I'll give you this. ONE girl likes me. Big problem though. She's the best friend of the girl i actually like! First of all, I don't like her back. Secondly, If and by if i mean WHEN we break up that would make me and the girl I like not friends any more. and Thirdly, If I dated her best friend then I would be cheating on her best friend in my mind because I would still like the first girl.

[codemister]

Wow didn't see that one answer. I like your answer "what the".

[what..the?]

and lastly and most important don't be blinded by the one girl, you say there's no one else you like and none of the other girls fancy you but when you have been looking in just one direction for 4 years you could have missed a lot of signals from other girls, open your heart to others especially girls who have a 'personality' like you and not fake magazine looks and views to match

[mike11111]

Oh dear, very complicated. Perhaps turning gay might help.

[MarkRae]

Try it...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HWw_vvi06jE

[codemister]

haha mike I guess that would solve everything lol. But no can't do that. And "What the" I appreciate your answers they really helped alot.

[mike11111]

My remark was tongue in cheek. Best wishes, but remember, softly, softly, catchee monkey.

[what..the?]

Wish I could solve the problem for you but life's not that easy, rough with the smooth as they say,

Maybe try to stay as cool and as stress free as possible don't get yourself all worked up too early in life even if romance were to hit with the 'said girl' one definite thing is 'times change' your feeling may change, someone else may come along any day, you may go onto different higher education studies and uni's and long distance relationships never work,

And with that personality of yours you don't want to be tied down when you go to uni, your sails will be flying high then, the girls will all love you and the choice is WAY bigger!

[codemister]

Just letting you all know that I am American. The American girl mentality if waaaay different than UK girls.

[what..the?]

in what way?

[mike11111]

Quite. Just like politicians. Bush, Obama and Palin wouldn't get a look-in over here.

[codemister]

American girls are all for looks, athletisism, and mostly sex. In other words, they are all sluts.

[codemister]

Just being honest.