Socialising, dating and drinking

[david51058]

Why don't young people arrange and go out on dates on a one-to-one basis anymore?
It seems that young males seem more interested in going out and getting absolutely smashed and falling over and vommitting rather than chat a girl up, get her phone number then phone her next day for a date. What's wrong with them?
When I was going out in the late seventies my mates and I used to go out drinking but mainly to give us a bit of Dutch courage because the most important thing was to 'pull'.
Now they don't seem interested.

[mrs_overall]

Oh don't get me started on this one.
As the mother kids age 21, 15 & 10 I am constantly being told that my views (similar to yours) are hopelessly outdated.
According to my offspring, the ideal night out is to go out with your mates, get hammered and then, if you are lucky, get laid (their phrase, not mine).

[andy-hughes]

It is the sea-change in social behaviour in the space of a generation that has seen such a massive alteration in young people's attitudes to interacting with each other.

When I was in my teens and early twenties, on a weekend, people would heads to the pub with friends, have a few drinsk, then adjourn to the local night-club and hopefully dance with a nice member of the opposite gender, and maybe arrange to meet up for a date. Friday was traditionally 'girls / lads' night, and Saturday was for those with partners to go out with them.

Now of course, such clubs are no more - people don;t dance and socialise, they tend to drink and fall over - a generalisation, but largely true, as the state of our town centres proves most weekends.

I think it's sad - a little conversation and learning the art of dating seems to be a thing of the past now - glad I'm too old for the scene these days!

[Huderon]

30+ years ago I came across a piece complaining about the behaviour of the youth of the day ... how disrespectful they were, how unruly, noisy, lacking in manners ...

Unfortunately, I cannot remember which of the ancient Greek writers it was making the complaint

[david51058]

Another thing that has caused this change is 24 hour opening. Many years ago when I was a youth, pubs were open 7pm until 11pm, this meant that everyone was out at the same same time, usually going to the same pubs in town which meant you bumped into the same girls every week and got to know them and things progressed from there. Then you moved onto the night club which was open only until 2am.
These days teenagers dont go out until 10pm at the earliest, straight into the clubs where there is loud music and you must thow shots down as fast as possible after they have had a load of drink at home to save money. No chance to interact with the opposite sex. Chatting up is becoming a dying art!

[jno]

"Now they don't seem interested."

er, perhaps that's because they think you're a bit old now?

[Booldawg]

as a weekend taxi driver I quite often take people out to the local bars quite late (between 10-11pm) they are usually more sober when I collect them at 2am and like to drop bits of 'Subway' all over the back seats.

[Davethedog]

I think that your wrong I don't belive thers any sort of seachange, I think that men in our society have been emasculated. I read once that a great many people married people they met in work, can't meet anyone in work now, one wrong word and your fired this apparently so even outside work. You go to a pub and speak to girl, she can scream anything and be believed, so why bother.

The media feed all of them impossible dreams ot what and who they should be.

[AB Editor]

Such slander on youth! Very unfair.