Why Rub It In That I Don't Have Many To Buy For At Christmas?

[Treacle71]

My co-worker asked if I've started my Christmas shopping (she knows it's just me and mum) and then said, "Oh yes, I suppose you have not many to buy for". Not nice?

[gingejbee]

Not "not nice". Perfectly OK comment, IMO.

[barry1010]

I wouldn't take offence at that, seems like she is jealous.

[Treacle71]

Didn't think of it like that, barry1010. Thanks.

[andy-hughes]

Experience shows that those of us with a lot of people to buy for, do envy those who have less gifts to find - I don't think your colleague meant anything nasty in her comment.

[Hopkirk]

I think they were just making small talk. No need to take offence.

[Treacle71]

Thanks, guys. Think I'm just cursed with a sensitive nature I'm afraid.

[lankeela]

First world problem. If that's all you've got to worry about you are very lucky.

[Yeoma]

I would disagree with the majority and say that your colleague sounded rather dismissive - possibly even patronising but the written word hides the way in which something is said. If you have a well-developed feeling of sensitivity that can make it difficult for you to accept some remarks. At least she is a colleague rather than a friend, Treacle. I hope a friend would have been more sensitive to you by asking what you had bought for your mother for example.

I wish you all the best, Treacle :-)

[New Judge]

//First world problem. If that's all you've got to worry about you are very lucky.//

Not lucky. Anybody in that position is simply taking advantage of the hard work and endeavour put in by our ancestors to leave the place nicer when they'd finished than it was when they started. It's what people do.

The problem is that, because of factors which are largely outside of their control (and some that are), people around in the UK at present are probably unlikely to be able to do that for their descendants.

[Tilly2]

I'm so glad I don't work with you.

[Yeoma]

^^
Now that fits my understanding of "not nice" :-(

[Tilly2]

Oh well.

[tiggerblue10]

You should've just said, 'I've got a few to get so, yes, I've started my Xmas shopping', and see the surprised look on her face.

[chanel5]

I think just thoughtless, rather than malicious.
One of those throw-away comments that can be so hurtful but the person making the remark doesn't have the insight to realise it is hurtful.

[Treacle71]

Thank you to the rest of you. I really appreciate it. xx

[1ozzy]

//I'm so glad I don't work with you.//

Me too Tilly, imagine having to put up with colleagues like that,,

[1ozzy]

Your colleagues Treacle, not you!

[Boto]

Wouldn’t bother me in the slightest. Would’ve even think there was anything to get upset about.k

[emmie]

some people must be glad in this time of austerity, not to have many to buy for at Christmas.

[Treacle71]

Very true, emmie, yes.