rubyrocket,
what im going to tell you now is my own experience of this situation.
i was with a man who treated my son from a previous relationship this way. he never had a good word to say, was constantly critisizing him, putting him down in whichever way he could. it was a constant battle between him and myself because all mothers will defend their offspring.
i made a huge mistake, of which i am now paying for in guilt, i stayed with this man.my son is now a teenager and i have chatted to him about this issue and he hates him with a passion for how he was treated by him. ultimately though, i feel that the responsibility lies at my feet for allowing it to by remaining with him. he not only treated him in this way but also myself so i suppose after so long you just live with it. i have since parted from my other half and have never been happier. It is so easy to drift along just taking the good bits and pushing the bad bits to the back but trust me, they DO resurface!
take my word for this ruby, it will not get any better. please please do not end up like me, full of regret for the different life you could have given your son. every day i feel guilty and have some real issues as to why i let this happen to us. They will never go away. I know my son doesnt blame me and despite all this he is an amazing boy whom i am increibly proud of!
Yes you are pregnant, but he could well end up jealous of the new baby too! Please please rubyrocket, dont make the same mistake i made, you can't turn back the clocks 10 years down the line. Who is most important, the man or your son? you know the answer
i wish you all the very best of luck in making the right decision. i wish id been given this advice many years ago.
mustardchops xx