Married 20 yrs - hes getting divorced - where do I stand?

[tgm1974]

My partner was married to his ex for 20 yrs and in that time put into a pension as he is self employed. They are currently carrying out a long awaited divorce (privately).

Does she have a stake on his pension when he becomes of that age if they dont mention anything financial in his divorce and if so, where do I stand when we get married!!

Arrrggghhhhhh

[kawa4]

sorry. yes she does. and u get nothing from what has been paid in.

[pastafreak]

I am in the later stages of divorce after being married for 25 years......I will be getting a share of my husbands private pension. This is payable as a lump cash sum...the rest is his.On that basis,I would imagine your partner 's wife would be entitled to a share-payable now. I don't believe this is automatic,but is worked into the final settlement.

[tgm1974]

Does the same thing work the other way around - if they both put into a pension does she just get her own or do both of them have entitlement to each others!!

I wouldnt expect to get anything out of any previous payments prior to living with me but if he continues to pay into a pension for the next 20 yrs then shouldnt I be allowed part of that and she is allowed nothing ... I have all this financial stuff.

Just re-read my comments, etc - hope noone thinks Im trying to find out what Im entitled to before I leave him .. Im with him for life.

[pastafreak]

If they both have pensions then there would be no entitlement to each others,as far as I know.Once his divorce is final from his current partner,then she will have no claim on him.