ADVICE-hubby had affair & child!

[XmandyX]

Advice...hubby had an affair and a child with someone..over 5yrs ago now.we are bk 2gether and had another child so 2 now,but the bitch makes it hard for hubby to see his child...wants him over her house or go out to a restaurant...he went to court....but in the end nothing really come of it...his child has met our children lots and comes over sometimes...but she is soo jealous we are together...and constantly texts and ring hubby for stupied reasons....i know he would never go there again....but she really bugs me and i can't really say anything to her,coz she will stop my hubby seeing his child...i so want revenge..and im planning on doing something,

[cazzz1975]

you are a fool mandy..

[XmandyX]

NO...im a strong wife & mother...and i will fight to the end for what belongs to me!!

[ganesh]

To be fair Mandy you can't ask for peoples opinions and then say 'stay out of it'.

[Quentin_Crisp]

Whats the point in asking advice here, then not taking it,.kiss mandy kiss?

[XmandyX]

i will say what i want...and she was too rude!!

[cazzz1975]

no, your husband does not belong to you. its mutual love and respect that will keep him with you. getting revenge on a woman he had a fling with is childish and stupid. have you thought about how this act of selfishness may affect their child?

carry on acting like a demented mad woman and he will be off to find mistress number 2

[grasscarp]

Was just going to say that but Ganesh beat me to it. Why on earth did you come onto answerbank and start a post with Advice if none is wanted. Almost unanimously people have been advising you not to take any revenge, and that the person who let you down was your husband. We have all wasted our time trying to give you reasons not to do what you are hell bent on doing anyway.

[XmandyX]

there were quite a few people who gave good advice...which had already crossed my mind,but when people go too far,and think they knw everything...stay out of it!

[Quentin_Crisp]

You seem to be a lost cause, especially not taking some of the advice given here from some posters. Why not, mandy? Too proud? Stubborn?

If you dont want opinions DONT post to us and waste our time.

[cazzz1975]

no its denial quentin, if its the other womans fault then its easier to reason with than wondering if you have married the wrong man.

[ganesh]

But no-one owns anyone really and I'm surprised you say that you are still 'fighting' for
what 'belongs' to you.Pink-kittens may be have put it rudely but most of these posts seem to agree with her.

[jackthehat]

If I was Mr xmandyx I think I'd be busy eyeing up mistress no. 2...............
It's hardly surprising he 'went off' if what he has a home is a vengeful, bitter and twisted wife hell bent on making the life of a single mother even more difficult !!

Direct your malice where it ought to be directed.............at your husband; if he had kept it in his trousers none of you (including the object of your spite) would be in this situation !!

[Quentin_Crisp]

A point well made, cazzz1975 and you will be correct in that statement

BTW - 1975 was a great year ;)

[XmandyX]

really if u all knew the whole story...im sure...u would all change ur minds..it seems some people..think it's me...totally the opp...if u knew what this woman had done for many years to me...actually having to go to the police and report this physco...unstable bad mother..and cannot even to this day hold on to a proper relationship instead of going for married men,this is a woman who men would run a million miles from,believe me im the good one here!!

[jackthehat]

^seems your husband ran the other way, though..............?

[ganesh]

What Mandy- your husband didn't exactly run away half a mile from her did he?

[grasscarp]

If men run a million miles from her what was your husband doing? What on earth good is doing something nasty and malicious going to do. I am not going to waste any more time on this thread. You dont want advice do you.

[cazzz1975]

so what do you gain by exacting revenge on this woman if she already has problems?

you know it takes 2 to tango, if your husband was the faithful type he would have told her to get lost but he didnt. I can imagine she feels pretty crappy having a bloke who got her pregnant then bu$$ered off back to his wife. stop painting him as a saint in this tawdy mess.

[Quentin_Crisp]

No she doesn't grasscarp - suggest we leave her to it and i pity the good people who took their time out to reply to this dross. Bye Bye

I will leave with one of my quotes -

I recommend limiting one's involvement in other people's lives to a pleasantly scant minimum.

[ganesh]

My advice,and don't think me rude as well,is to get some help yourself as in counselling or something. She may well be a bitch and crazy as you say,but your husband wanted her ,and quite honestly you sound like the crazy one,and you really need to calm down and get professional help.You don't say much about what your husband feels about the situation. Does he realise how upset you still are?