Biyfriend saying in out of order for going in hoilday with my family is he right ?

[Jade_sally_bevan]

I'm 19 and been with my biyfriend for 2 years we live together. The other day my ban ask if I would go on hoilday with her for 4 days with my family I ask my boyfriend and he was okay at first now my nan has booked ad paid for the hoilday and I have booked the time of work it's only 4 days in England no where great but now he is moanin at me saying I'm out of order that I shouldn't go and saying I shouldn't want to go without . Now I don't really want to go as I feel guilty for leaving him but it is only for 4 days but I have to go as my ban has paid for it but he making it hard for me to want to go . Another reason I'm going is cou my mum moved to Wales a couple of months back and I not seen her in some time and she will hopefully be coming up to meet up . He still saying that if it was him I shoulnt go and that on out of order ... Am I ??

[jackthehat]

No.

[Jade_sally_bevan]

Ban I mean nan

[Jade_sally_bevan]

What should I say to him to make him realise I'm not jut leaving him and I'm my being out of order ? Any ideas

[excelsior-1]

hello.

you are not out of order - family comes first.
if your boyfriend loves you, he should know that and be supportive for you.

he is out of line to be so possessive .. and bear in mind you have many years together (hopefully) so he should not begrudge 4 days.


also ... absence makes the heart grow fonder

[LoftyLottie]

No he is wrong. He is possessive and that is not a good thing. I have been married for 40 years and have often been on short trips away with family or friends. Go and enjoy yourself - you have nothing to feel guilty about.

[humbersloop]

No.

I'm not leaving you, I'm going on holiday.

Morning jack :)

[NOX]

No not at all, just go and enjoy yourself. If he objects I'd take it as a head's up he's a controlling freak, so whatever you do make sure you go and enjoy yourself.

[Jade_sally_bevan]

I feel much better now :)

[RATTER15]

Bless him! he is still growing up, he will get over it. go and enjoy your holiday, just keep in touch regularly to re-assure him that you are still thinking of him, especially during the the evenings.

[Kiki-frog]

No, he's being way too possessive and controlling. It sounds like he's very insecure, but I can't see what he's worried about. If your nan has already paid for it, then I think you should go.

[excelsior-1]

we are happy to help.

enjoy your family trip, good luck eith the BF.

[Jade_sally_bevan]

Thank you everyone

[EDDIE51]

If he is that possessive it is about time you got rid of him for good.
Dump him and go on holiday , then when the new school year starts go back to school and learn to write in sentences and use punctuation

[boxtops]

Good - everyone has the right to go away on their own if they want to or need to, you are not tied to this bloke's leg. It's not as if you are going away for a hen weekend or a crazy week in Ibiza with your mates - you're going to see your nan and your mum.

Get him to make plans to see his own family while you're away - it's a great idea.

[boxtops]

^ and PS - you need space in all relationships, OH and I do lots of things separately, it's not necessarily good for anyone to spend all your waking hours together.

[boxtops]

Harsh Eddie, I suspect this is a phone post - we know exactly what she means.

[B00]

Tell him to grow a pair and to stop sulking, it's 4 days for heavens sake!

[Old_Geezer]

Why not ask him what the real issue is. You say he was ok with it and now he's not. Try to avoid this being a confrontation, use it to understand what needs working on. Maybe he isn't confident in the relationship ?

[tonyav]

Listen to boxy, she is right.

[humbersloop]

what's a phone post boxy?