I Went To A Funeral Today.

[gness]

It was beautiful.....in what is now called a Natural Burial Ground....just a little field really where we stood around the wicker coffin of this lovely man.

The Humanist Celebrant was wonderful...he told us simply of the life of this man and his family as a buzzard and a red kite circled low overhead.

His sons spoke, through tears...of the Dad they loved and who had loved them....
How he had taught them, played with them, guided them and annoyed them.....and had always been there for them right up until the end.

And I thought.....how wonderful it must be to have had a parent like that....how I will never stand at a grave and say those words.....

But hey....perhaps my kids will for me.....I hope so..........☺

[Tilly2]

I hope so too, gness. That was lovely. Thank you.

[losgigs]

That must have been very moving, gness. This type of burial seem to be getting more common.

[Pete65]

A very nice post, Gness.
Thank you!

[DTCwordfan]

Not one of my bastardisations.....

She told her daughter she hated her and wished she was never born.
She didn't even seem to care that the child's heart was torn.
She blamed child for all of her heartache and pain.
Did she realise emotional abuse can drive a child insane.
She said her child was the reason she never achieved her dreams.
Those words hurt her child more than to her they may have seemed.
All her daughter wanted was her love and her affection.
But all she ever got was her mother's constant rejection,
Feeling like a lost child with no one to love.
She prayed to be taken away to the heavens above,
Not knowing why she just wasn't good enough.
Why, when she needed gentleness, was she treated so rough.
Wondering why her existence caused her mother so much pain,
Longing for her mother's love she probably would never gain.
Wanting her mother to tell her she was a blessing,
That she was not the reason for her mother's stressing.
If there is a little girl out there that feels this way,
Just know you are one of God's angels, and -
he should love you more each day.

[gness]

Welcome....and thank you....

It was moving and more so because both my family deaths....but not connected to each other...had funerals today at exactly the same time...the other in Devon. I could only attend one...but my thoughts were with both..

Humanist funerals are becoming more common...I had one for MrG...and I find them so much more comforting.....x

[Mamyalynne]

Beautiful sentiments.


My Father took a part of me the day we buried him - we were inseparable.

[yogi-bear]

Nice thoughts and words, gnessy xx

[gness]

Thanks, DT....you know I think...x

Mamya.....you see that's what I now know I never had...that closeness to a parent.......but....a few days ago I was chatting on the phone to my Auntie about her kids.....she was saying how proud she was of them......then she added....You know I'm proud of you too, Gness.....and what you've done with your life after all that happened.....
I was stunned....I think that's the first time anyone has said that to me...and it felt kind of nice......☺

[mikey4444]

My uncle was buried in a similar fashion a few years ago, in North Devon. It was easily the nicest funeral that I have ever been to, by miles !

[gness]

Thanks, Yogi.....it was just a day I wanted to share a bit.....x

[Mamyalynne]

You have a wonderful Auntie then Gness.

[gness]

It seems so natural doesn't it, Mikey? No waffle and the same words over and over.....a proper and meaningful goodbye....x

[gness]

Mamya....she is my mother's sister....and the bee's knees.....x

[DTCwordfan]

sent you an e-mail, mikey..........(excusez-moi, gness)

[yogi-bear]

Thats lovely

Thanks for sharing your special day x

[mikey4444]

Thanks DTC.....just about to log on !

[tonyav]

Glad it went well, gness.

[gness]

Thanks, Tony.....couldn't believe both were on the same day at the same time....and after such a wait....
My nephew, a Humanist Celebrant, took the one for my other nephew in Devon........so I guess it went well too though his Mum fell badly last week and broke bones so she couldn't go.
A minister went to the hospital and sat with her and prayed as the funeral was happening so that was good...x

[tonyav]

Broke bones, gness. How many ?.
Yes that was good of the minister to sit with her.

[gness]

Three bones....in a leg....looks like she won't be able to return home though.....she was a bit fragile before....she's a tiny thing.
She fell some time ago and damaged her face...I took her for her final check up and the consultant told us there was nothing to do but....watch and wait.
On the way home she asked me why the hell he had told her to watch her weight.....☺