Pregnancy Scans

[ukpuffy]

Any new parents out there? Did you chose to know the sex of your baby before they were born or did you choose to hold on and wait for the birth. And afterwards, did you wish you had choosen otherwise?

[kerrymill]

Hi, my daughter is 9 months old and i couldn't wait to find out the sex at my 20 wk scan.Along with her actual birth it was one of the happiest days of my life.I felt it really helped me to identify with her before she was born,it was also nice being able to buy all those cute clothes.

[The Nugget]

My wife and I decided that if the medical staff knew for sure then we wanted to know. This became academic as my wife tested high risk for Downs and we decided to go for Amniocentesis which gives gender with almost 100 percent accuracy. In the last 3 months of the pregnancy my father was diagnosed with stomach cancer and he died 10 days before our daughter was born. I am so glad he knew he had a grand-daughter (called Laura) on the way, for this reason I have no regrets. 

[boobesque]

my family history has a problem carryingboys and 16 months before i had my son i lost a little boy very prematurely, so it was deemed best to find out the sex to be prepared thatit could happen again. I was very pleased i found out, as with kerrymill i found it a good bonding process to find out i was having another little boy (who was very early too, but is currently watching tv upside down!)

[Jules001]

When I was pregnant with my two children, I couldn't and wouldn't have wanted to find out in advance. I know I wouldn't have been able to keep it a secret and I think it is is also a bit of an anticlimax. I have been told by people who know the sex of their baby and they have chosen names and when they phone around to announce the birth, all they have to say is the weight of the baby and mum is doing well, it all seems a bit of a let down to me. I had never thought about some of the consequences of knowing like the above mention, but they are all valid reasons for knowing. I personally would not have like to have known.

[OBonio]

9 week old girl tomorrow! Hence I'm up at this time....

We chose not to find out what sex she was at the 20 week scan. I waivered, but my wife didn't want to know so we didn't ask.

However, I thought I'd picked up on a slip by the lady performing the scan saying 'he's well positioned'... 'Aha! We have a boy', I thought..... So from 20 weeks to 39 weeks I thought we were having a boy.

There's nothing wrong in knowing in advance I don't think. I say 'knowing', but they aren't always correct.

To prove how little it really matters what sex the baby is, we didn't even ask what sex she was shen she was born. We were just so happy to have a healthy baby. We were actually prompted by the mid-wife as to whether we wanted to know the sex!

[gedk]

We have a one year old son (Oliver) and we found out the sex at our 20wk scan (couldn't really miss it though as his winkie was waving about on the screen!). Once we had found out we called him by his name throughout the rest of my pregnancy and bought boys clothes etc. I don't think it makes any difference to the birth as you are just so happy to finally meet your little one that it doesn't matter that you already know whether they are a boy or girl. It is a purely personal thing but I know if I had another I would find out again.

[lurcher]

when i was expecting my husband and i decided not to find out because there aren't many nice surprises in life and we thought this is one surprise we didn't want to know about. All the more exciting when you find out. You can also tell the midwife when the baby is born you don't want to be told you want to see for yourself.

[Bottom]

HI all,

I am am actually due for my 20 weeks scan on tuesday, I have to agree with Jules001, For my first a would like it to be a surprize as I will have to go though so much for the baby to be born that a surprize would be nice at the end of it.

[edwina child]

i did not want to find out but whan i got there and the women asked us my husband and i said yes please ,then she said its a girl xxxxxxxxxxxx i went shopping that day and every think i seen pink am glad i found out. every one is different so do what u want to good luck

[loopey]

We didnt find out the sex of our first son but we did for the other two, basically for practical reasons, I found the older boys had bonded with the youngest before he was born as we knew he would be a boy and therefore had named him.

[Stinkerbell]

i found out the sex of both of my babies(now 3 and 5 months). a lot of people say it spoils the suprise but i say you can be better prepared with clothes, names, nursery etc and you still have the suprise of what theyre going to look like, i also found it helped me to bond as i had been calling them by theyre names.