I have to agree with all the other responses, as a first time (and only time) lone parent I constantly questioned whether I was a bad parent, doing it wrong, messing my child up, being too strict, having unrealistic expectations of how my child would/should act. Am i a bad mother? Should I let him do that? Should I have given in? I can say 8 years on (he is now 10, and has had counselling thanks to his father) that you will always, always question these things if you love your child and want the best for them. If you didn't care then you wouldn't be worried enough to ask other people. Unfortunately it's part and parcel of not having another person around to either justify or confer with about what you're doing. I reckon you're doing just fine :) *hugs*