Teen Smow's Girlfriend To Stay!

[Smowball]

I've spoken to a few friends re this already and have varying replies but just curious to your opinions!

Most of you know that he now lives with his dad and has a really good little job he loves, and now a girlfriend! She is two years older than him and I've never met her but have seen photos.
Teen Smow is very sensible indeed- not like most boys his age. It's his 18th birthday next month and he said he was coming home to visit just beforehand which I was really excited about and was thinking of things to do for his birthday. Then he rings me and asks if he could bring new gf. Oh, didn't expect that. But not to worry,it will be ok. Spare rooms newly decorated, new bed etc.....
Then as he's talking the penny drops that he has assumed that they will be sharing a room..... oh I didn't expect that.
Trying to make light of it I said something silly like separate rooms young man! Lol. To which he said "Seriously??". I said but don't you think that will be a tad awkward - I've never even met the girl. He starts on about its not all about sex, they've never even slept together. So I said well why do you want to share a room?(especially as his room is above mine!) he just says he does.
Not wanting an argument I changed the subject and we talked about something else. I've since spoken to a few people about it. Mr Smow says no - he isn't even 18 yet. Others say he's a young man. Yes I know I'm biased as he will always be a baby to me but just it just feels odd. Think I'm also annoyed that he didn't ask , he just assumed, which is unlike him.
Curious to your thoughts, and am sure most will say I'm being silly!

[Tilly2]

I think that they should respect your wishes and take the two bedrooms.

[hereIam]

The way I see it is, your house, your rules ...

[FinnyMick]

Separate rooms, I am sure he will creep quietly across the landing

[Smowball]

The rooms are on separate floors !

[FinnyMick]

He will find a way up or down stairs

[Tilly2]

Smow, if you don't feel comfortable about your 17 year old son sleeping with his girlfriend in your house, then stick to your guns.

[anneasquith]

They have never slept with each other yet ????? How long have they been together ?

[ummmm]

Whereas I'd be more laid back about it.

[FinnyMick]

Just leave them to get on with it

[EcclesCake]

We were 23 and 33 and given separate rooms, this continued until we married!

[Smowball]

A couple of months annea.... told you he's not like most teeenagers lol. He lives with his dad and she lives with her grandparents.

[EDDIE51]

If they are going to have sex they will do it anyway . So you may as well just accept them sharing a room! They are both over 18! Your 'little boy' is an adult now !

[jim360]

Perhaps an alternative approach is to let them share a room but leave condoms, lube and a porn mag, and let embarrassment take its natural course.

[dannyk13]

I would calmly and quietly tell him that you would not feel comfortable with them sharing a room.He should then respect your feelings.

[maggiebee]

Your house means your rules.

[EDDIE51]

^ Sorry over 16 , the age of consent, and your son will be a full adult very soon!

[melv16]

Stains come out of bed linen easier than sofa cushions ;-)

[Prudie]

No I wouldn't let them sleep in the same rooms, certainly at at that age (I expected the majority on here to let them). I had the same rule with my daughter and her boyfriends. It shows some respect in my opinion. i can't think of anything more cringing than knowing your kids are at it across the landing.
From my youth we wouldn't have dreamt of parents allowing this at 18 but the finding a way added to the experience

[Smowball]

Really Jim?? Lol.

Yes I know he's a young man. Just a big leap from leaving here with GCSE results and now , well , he's all grown up...

[Mamyalynne]

I'd quietly make it clear we weren't keen but insist if they were to share, even for only part of the night that he has protection available - despite his claims they haven't yet or won't.


It isn't worth spoiling the visit you're looking forward to.