Where Do You Find Comfort?

[Theland]

Sadly, my life is not plain sailing.
I have health, financial, and family problems.
I have six children, two of whom have disabilities.
One of them has serious financial problems, and has trouble paying rent and bills.
My two disabled children have fallen out big time, and not speaking.
I am totally stressed trying to keep the family together and finding pretty difficult.
Anyway, just as most people need a holiday from work etc,
I too need a break from time to time.
I find comfort in prayer and submitting my will to Gods will, and trying my best to help out the people in the area who have materially less than me.
I am no saint. Far from it.
But without a belief and trust in God I honestly believe I would crack up.
God helps me in so many ways, always arriving like the cavalry, sometimes in the nick of time, but so far, He has never let me down. Thank God.
So, what do you think?
When life threatens to become unbearable, how do you find comfort?
This is not a provocative post, I am not looking for an argument.
I am simply asking the question.
Some may think I am weak. Fair enough. Weakness and a trust in Gods strength is part of my belief.
Anyway, you know where I am going with this, and I would welcome your comments, in particular, from Nailit and Zacs.

[Mamyalynne]

It's clear you are in turmoil - happens to us all at times. Harder when the family can't be part of the comfort.

I hope you find some peace from the stress.x

[Theland]

Thank you Mamya.

[wolf63]

Life is hard. Humans are not really a nice species, yet we are capable of great kindness and most people mean well.

If you use religion as your guide and help through your life then this is a good thing.

You aren't weak and pathetic to believe in a god, you are trying to be the best person that you can be.

Your disabled children are, I presume, adults - leave them to their war. Being related to someone does not mean you must like them. Don't take sides - (you can tell that I have no children, but I do have two 13-year-old sibling moggies who hate the sight of each other). ☺


Best of luck.

[anneasquith]

Family, friends, memories, prayer. All simple things :-)

[ummmm]

Family mainly.

[anneasquith]

Oh and the dog :-)

[Theland]

Off to bed now.
Goodnight Night Owls.

[silliemillie]

Theland, I'm so glad you have found some sort of comfort, we all need something so if it works for you don't worry about anyone else's views, you are not weak.

Wolf, is right, life is hard, seek solice where you can.
And as she also says just because they are family you don't have to like them.

My Mother is really dragging me down (see my other posts if you're interested, tho I don't blame you if your not!) she is the most negative person I know.
I love her but I don't always like her.

But unfortunately in the words of Robbie Williams
"I sit and talk to God, but he just laughs at my plans"

I send you my heartfelt good wishes. X

[waterboatman]

You're going through tough time mate, been there, done that. You're doing your best, you can do no other. It's just the way life is. Sibling rivalry or just plain dislike is often the way of it. All you can do is be there for them. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. You're a good man my friend, you're doing your best and that is all you can do. As for the two not speaking, that's better than them fighting, Believe me!

[murraymints]

Aww Theland...life's a female dog at times...take comfort wherever you find it... everyone has their own way of dealing with life's travails.... I hope things improve for you ....and may your God go with you xx

[jennyjoan]

I too know of one family - six of them too - none of them speak to each other and when they were younger they fought physically but now they're older - they just don't bother and while it is not pleasant - it works out. They leave each other alone.

If you know you're doing your best, that should be good enough. Best wishes Theland.

[10ClarionSt]

"God helps me in so many ways, arriving like the cavalry"

What did he look like?

Anyway, you're not the only one who has had problems similar to this. That may sound callous and uncaring but you can only do your best, stay strong and keep calm. Wartime advice, eh? Sort of, I suppose but it seems like a family at war to me. Religion has nothing to do with it from my viewpoint.

[naomi24]

Theland, in all the years I’ve known you, you’ve revelled in making a public drama of what you perceive to be the hardships in your life. Few are fortunate enough to live charmed lives, but most get on with it without constantly seeking attention or sympathy. I now take everything you say with a large pinch of salt. For me, you have become the boy who cried ‘Wolf!’

[Kromovaracun]

When I need to, I usually turn to my family or close friends for help and support. I'm lucky enough to have a few hobbies which put me in regular contact with a close group of friends who are very supportive. I also often find that reading helps. A friend of mine always sits and reads 'Waiting for Godot' whenever he feels overwhelmed, and he finds it extremely helpful.

[mibn2cweus]

Having invested no small part of my life recovering from the mind numbing, self-esteem crushing affects of enduring ones formative years in a deeply scriptural Biblical upbringing, having to discover for myself and develop the means and process of reason, by which we must as humans learn to live as rational beings, I cannot help but wonder if you are not in fact a victim of that to which you've chosen to turn to in search of comfort, the very same beliefs that now make your need to find comfort all the more crucial. Perhaps the time is long overdo to reconsider exactly what it is you need salvation from.

[Baldric]

Family, Friends and if I need some Me time, long solo dog walks.

[MallyJ]

Learn to walk away and ignore.....if your children are adults..as it seems they must be, then it is down to them to sort themselves out not you. If they don't learn to take responsibility for themselves and their relationships and finances etc then life is going to get tougher and tougher....so leave them all alone to get on with their lives.

[AuntLydia]

Theland, sorry I'm not one of those you assume knows where you are going with this but I'll answer your question as if personally addressed to me. Pray gives reflection but also expects contrition . I find a long walk on my own, a quiet place for reflection beside a stream or at the beach helps. Reflecting on problems and challenges without the burden of a Moral Code set by a faceless Deity helps me.

[SparklyKid]

God helps me in so many ways, always arriving like the cavalry, sometimes in the nick of time, but so far, He has never let me down. Thank God.
So, what do you think?

I think you should have more faith in yourself rather than some ridiculous reliance on the fictitious sky fairy.