Boyfriend troubles

[pinkiefriend]

Hello.
I wonder if you can help with a bit of advice. I split from my long-term boyfriend of over 3 years. We were living together before we split up. Anyway after about 2 months of us being split up we got back together. The only thing is that I had really been enjoying myself when we were split, seeing lots of friends and even made a few new ones. Now that we are back together I feel that I am not the same person. I find that when I am out without him, I feel better fun to be around and feel that I am more free-er and confident. I feel it's harder to do my own thing even though he allows me to be me; I do want to be with him. I'm finding it difficult because it's been playing on my mind when we are together. He now lives somewhere else, still in the same town, to be honest, I though I would find that the hardest to deal with but it's not. I have thought of ending it but want to give it a change to have a good healthy relationship where we both do our own things and feel happy and confident doing them. It's so hard juggling friends and boyfriend to have a healthy amount of time with everyone.

[hectic]

Hi pinkiefriend, you sound a lot like me, I split with my boyfriend a couple of months ago and we almost got back together until I decided I liked being single too much because like you I met new people and started doing new things and thought it wouldn't be the same if I got back together with my boyfriend because I felt I was a different person and realised I wanted different things. By the sound of your post, it seems to me that you don't want to be with your boyfriend but feel you have to because you were toghter for so long and have shared so much together, maybe its familiarity you've gone back to and not really what you want? Hope this has helped and not confused you more x

[snook]

Pinkie, there's a whole lot of doubt coming across in your post. Don't feel coerced into recommencing the relationship if your heart's not in it. When it's right, you'll know it. When there's this much doubt, I think you already have your answer, though you may not have realised it yet.

[Bohne]

I think you describe your feelings quite clearly...

Sometimes, however, it is not that easy to realize things when you are stuck in the middle of it...

I think your feelings tell you, that (at least at the moment) it is not right for you to be with that guy.

Even though it may be hard, my advice is: Go with that feeling!