help me with my 5 year old

[ronnie963]

he "accidently" scrached his friends face at school we talked and i was happy that it was an accident only the next day he had done it again, on purpose i feel terrible the childs face is a mess. i spoke to his mum who was very understanding about how sorry i was but i got very upset this morning when i dropped him at school and have spent most of the day crying i cant beleive he hurt someone like this. i,m a single mum with 2 elder boys and i never had any trouble with them what shall i do to make sure this doesn,t happen again.

[mgba_78]

I would say something along the lines of...it's not nice to hurt people as it hurts them and makes them feel really upset, you wouldn't like it if you were hurt as it is painful etc

Maybe give an example of a time if ever when maybe his older brothers hurt him?? and then he can recall how he felt..

If that doesn't work maybe get the teacher to speak to him and the whole class in general how it i snot nice to hurt our friends

[acorn]

Im sorry you are feeling so low but its because you are obviously a great and caring mum. My son hit a child at school and i went through similar - except i burst into tears at the school gates infront of everyone!

Sometimes its just a testing thing they do especially at his age. Tell him how upset you felt when you had explained to him that big boys dont hurt others, they look after their friends. Explain to him that mummy doesnt want to feel sad about this. Perhaps the other child does something that yours doesnt like. Children often do strange things. Im afraid im not much help as my son stopped doing things to the other lad pretty quickly. I agree with mgba - you could always speak to the teacher to see if she can shed any light on the matter. I wish you all the best and please let us know how things turn out.

[lion heart]

I would ask one of your older kids to try explaining to him that its not nice to hit others and how would he like it if someone done that to him that its only ok to hit back if he gets hit(but only when its not an accident) yeh your right i think it would be pretty hard to explain but i think if you keep at it, it may get throught. Maybe try a scare tacktick tell him the police come and take bad boys away if they do not do what there told (maybe abit tough with him being so young) good luck

[ronnie963]

thank you all very much for your help