Any parent had to deal with a 11 to 13 year who wet bed ?

[inej]

How did you get them to stop wetting ? And how did you get to the root of the problem ?

[randomsasha]

Have they been to the doctor about this? A family member of mine wet the bad and sometimes had accidents during the day up until she was 13/14, and it turned out after she had tests done, she had a very small bladder for her age. It could also be that theyre a very heavy sleeper and dont know they need to go, as that was another suggestion the doctor made.

[SaxyJag]

My son's problem was not only bedwetting, but general seepage - through the day too. He had all sorts of tests and scans to check for muscular and nerve weaknesses, and the hospital finally figured out that he had a lazy bladder - wasn't emptying properly when he'went'.

The hospital taught him to self-catheterise (he was 12), which helped. Eventually he just grew out of it.

It's important to work closely with school. We had a discreet talk with my son's teachers and they arranged a special signal so that he could visit the loo during lessons if he needed.

[Azimov]

I wet the bed up until the age of 13.
I remember going to hospital for tests which (as I recall) showed that there was nothing physically wrong.
I remember also that my older brother had wet the bed until the age of 13 and I fervently believed that I too would stop when I turned 13 and sure enough, almost imediately after my 13th birthday I was dry as a bone.
I wet the bed maybe 3 or 4 times in the next few months but at 40 I can proudly say I'm over it completely!

The best advice the doctor gave my mother in that time was this...
Never ever make the child feel that he/she has done something wrong or bad when they wake up in a wet bed, this will only cause anxiety inn the child.
If the problem is emotional,as is often the case, this will only make matters worse.

On a lighter note, just to prove that time heals all ills, and there is life after bedwetting, a funny anecdote from a former BW.

My brother and I used to share a bed as kids and one more than one occasion we'd wake up in the night to find that one of us had wet the bed.
My mother would wash and change us and put us in with our sister for the remainder of the night. (can you see where this is going?)
Yes, you guessed it, the other would end up wetting our sisters bed and she was never a bedwetter herself. lol
We can laugh about it now (OK my brother and I could always laugh about it) but my sis always maintains, "It's better to be pi$$ed off than..."

[curiosity]

There are two kinds of bed wetting, Primary & secondary (If I remember rightly) the first meaning, they have never had a really long period of dry nights (not sure how long) and the second being they have been dry for years, then started wetting again. Both are seen to have different causes, which may help you in searching for the solution. However, I remember reading about Milk intolerance causing various problems eg colic in babies, excema in toddlers etc and different symptoms depending on your age, one being bed wetting in older kids/teenagers. My son wet up to age 11, and always more when having loads of milk (coke with caffiene in doesn't help either). I have also worked with a girl who drank full fat milk and wet the bed, and this stopped when she restricted her diary intake. Just a thought. Hope all goes well.

[curiosity]

**dairy not diary** if only it was as easy as putting your pen down! Sorry. Good Luck

[OBonio]

I wet the bed 'til I was 13. I just grew out of it. Weak bladder my mum thought, but never had me go to the doctor about it (it was embarassing enough as it was thanks!).

[ronnie3]

This maybe not be the cause but may people don't know that if a child has worms they may wet the bed. My sons school is rifle with them at the moment and when he catches them he wets the bed, as soon as he is treated he stops.

[Proactivity]

This is often caused by general anxiety. If they're a nervous child, wetting the bed perpetuates the problem, so you need to break the cycle. Try a sticker chart, and let the child fill in every dry night. You can supplement this with a small reward for each day, or a successful week. Remember it's supposed to be psychologically encouraging, so don't be negative about the slip-ups.