school and hairstyles..

[Goodsoulette]

my son has been told he cant have spikey hair at school. Has he got just a small spikey strip of hair? Tramlines? Does he look like a thug? This is what is so offensive for a 4 yr olds hair do which hasnt changed since he has had hair.

http://i35.photobucket.com/albums/d178/goodsoulette/johnny.jpg

Whats their problem??

[andy-hughes]

Schools do have policies regaring hair styles, in order to prevent anything too outrageous. From the picture, it looks as though this child's hair simply sticks up a little, there is no apparent effort to style it into a 'spikey' style.

Have a quiet word with the Head Teacher, and ask what the problem is. Remain calm, and you should win your argument.

[MrsJo49155]

whilst I agree with you can also see their point of view...at the school I work at you find that if one does it the next does it "plus a little bit more" and so in the end they get more extreme...having said that I dont think there would be that competitive element with 4 year olds!

[tigerthecat]

Power! Power! Power!

[mycats]

My son (who is 9) had his hair really long, right down his back and got it shaved off into a mohawk and dyed bright red, his school just said it was cool. I would have been VERY angry if they tried to say he had to change it. I went to school with green, pink, purple, all sorts of hair!

[mycats]

Oh and by the way, re. that photo, aaaaaaaaawwwwwww!! what a cutie! :-)

[meltoadhall]

what is theur problem hes 4 for goodness sake!

[gessoo]

Again a problem of schools and teachers trying to exert authority over parents! Yes, it's a power thing more than anything. If a child's hair is very long then it may be necessary to tie it back for safety or hygiene reasons, other than that it shouldn't matter what hairstyle they have. He looks a lovely little fella!

[Goodsoulette]

Thanks guys, I havent said anything because I dont see the point. He is more annoyed than anything, I just couldnt believe it. Even the class teacher is embarassed by it. She even said he doesnt look the same with his hair all flat.

[stubbings]

Just a comment - lets make sure our children are allowed to be children and not teach them to be obsessed by the way they look - they have enough time for that when they get older.

Yours Sincerely

A Grumpy !

[gessoo]

I agree with you stubbings. Four is somewhat young to be concerned about hairstyles, but it does happen. Peer pressure is apparent even at this age. However, parents like to see their children looking nice and Goodsoulette's son has a very normal hairstyle for a four year old - it looks neat and tidy, suits him and won't interfere with any boyish rough and tumble.

The school were wrong in drawing his attention to it. They are more guilty than anyone else of trying to control how children should look.

[gessoo]

What I do disagree with is children wearing jewellery and make up to school or being dressed up like mini adults.

[mycats]

lol at "A Grumpy" can I just point out that when my son had long hair then a red mohwak it was entirely his choice, (myself and my friends are punks and have that kind of hair) sorry, I'm feeling a bit sensitive since some idiot just called me a racist in another thread :-(