kids fighting

[sleepyj]

what is the best way to stop my boys fighting one is 14 and other 17 they really fight most of the time ..drives me mad .! in the car in the house they cant walk past each other with out one hitting the other ...

[hello-sailor]

i have alaws found the headlock best with kids , you don't hurt them but my god does it make em angry!

[sleepyj]

problem is both very strong and the 17 year old is about 6 ft tall ..

[sleepyj]

think they would be happy not to have to eat my cooking lol .

[terambulan]

Start bawling/crying as loud as possible......and scream dont hit me, dont hit me....so neighbours can hear.

They'll be so embarrassed;)

[sleepyj]

dont think that would bother them .just wish they could get on they are lucky its the only 2 of them ...i have 3 brov and 3 sis .we was not as bad as my 2 are

[sleepyj]

i might cage them !!

[Sachs]

What you do is sod off for a few days and let them fend for themselves! Seriuosly! xxx

[Sachs]

Seriously even! lol! xxx

[sleepyj]

i would come back and my house would be a right state ! when they fight in the car i say i will chuck them out ..but never do as i would then worry something might happen to them ...

[annie0000]

Sachs has the right idea, they need to do something where they have no choice but to rely on each other - can you send them of camping somewhere remote - give one the tins of beans and the other the can opener, one the tent and the other the poles etc - they will then have no option other than to work together or they freeze and starve.

Other than that, you need to seperate them - tell them that you can only keep one of them and you will be judging them over the next week in order to decide which one!

[annie0000]

If they fight in the car, you stop somewhere safe and refuse to move until they behave. You could always film them and show them how childish they are behaving.

Did they always fight, or is this a new thing?

My two get on great at the moment (age 8 and 7) but I wonder if this is what I have in store when they become teenagers.

[adelespirit]

annie i love the reply about telling them you will be jugging them over the next week as to which one you will keep, i might just have to try that one with my kids they always bickering no fights yet.

[bensmum]

If it's any consolation my 2 went through a similar phase when they were teenagers and they get on really well now. It is just very frustrating at the time and you feel like banging their heads together

[annie0000]

adele - you can only really use that with older kids - a younger child might actually believe you and that would be really cruel. They need to know that you are kidding about sending them away, but still believe that you have had enough of their behaviour - its a fine line!

[adelespirit]

the older ones are 12 and 13 i might wait a couple of years yet to use it LOL

[sleepyj]

tin of beans the youngest one would cope well he would hunt and kill and gut a rabbit .cook that ...my youngest gave his brother a fat lip this morn

[annie0000]

Have they always been like that sleepy? Other than you, do they have anything in common? Could they learn something together e.g. playing a instrument?