Smacking children

[RavenD]

I have a 2 year old and a 3 year old both whom I smack.
( lightly on the back of the legs and when they are having hissy fits ). They are very pleasant, intelligent and loving children when I look after them.
But when my wife looks after them she does not smack them and does not really discipline them and they suddenly become rowdy, noisy and very naughty.
I very rarely smack my children now as I just have to change the tone of my voice and they now they are in trouble and they stop being naughty.
I just wanted peoples thoughts on this controversial issue.

[RavenD]

@no.knowledge, it's a way of directing a response to a person who has answered your question. So that there is no confusion. An internet habit I guess, but nothing disrespectful or malicious behind it.

You seem to just want to flame me for reasons I can't understand.

[Doc.Spock.1]

Sorry sara but children do need the odd slap.


Back of the legs is good.

I believe we would not have the problems we have to-day if discipline was allowed to be exercised at home.

[RavenD]

I'm the forgiving type.

[sara3]

so Doc.. when do you stop smacking them? when they're big enough to smack back?

when does it cross from being a smack to being assault?

[Doc.Spock.1]

I am now 63, when I was about 10 no-one swore on the buses.


Just listen to young kids now.

Everything has gone t1ts up thanks to the soppy PC brigade.

[Doc.Spock.1]

Sara you sound like a product of the modern age.


Your question is stupid.


Any responsible parent knows the answer to your question.


I presume you are relatively young and therefore have little experience to draw upon.

[Doc.Spock.1]

How can you "think" you are gay.


It would'nt happen as my offsprings are from good genetic stock.

[Doc.Spock.1]

Good for you Redhelen, that it what I am talking about.


The problem with children is they do not know where the line is.

You could talk to them till you are blue in the face and they will still push it.

[sara3]

you think my question is stupid and that I am relatively young?

your judgement is pretty poor on both matters, so well done you!

that said... I'm younger than you, obviously ;o)

[Postdog]

Going out, so can't read all the posts, but I think there should be more smacking if naughty. I got smacked as a kid and I have grown up to respect other people and their views and have never been in any kind of trouble with the law, yet kids I see now who aren't smacked are just growing up to be little sods.

[Doc.Spock.1]

So Sara, to-days youngsters are better behaved now than years ago.

Proof of the pudding I would say.

[sara3]

hey.. you asked for opinions!

I'm only commenting on my relationship with my children.. I don't think I can change society with my views.

but yes, it's a sorry state of affairs but that's just a general lack of respect and very little value put on life by certain groups.

do you think none of today's yobs weren't smacked? I'll bet some of them were, and some were beaten senseless. and what did that teach them?

[garner]

There is an old saying about smacking...You don't knock the devil out, you knock the devil in.

[eltbus]

RavenD. Do what you think is right. If you have to ask advice, perhaps you are having doubts about your actions. Kindest regards and good luck to you and yours....

[terambulan]

My 'kids' r 40, 38 & 30 and have all been whacked for misdeeds.....in some cases saved them from being killed on the road when disobeying.

Ofcourse parents have power over kids - naturally but parents also want their children to survive and allowing them to turn feral by mamby-pamby discipline is only leaving their where-with-all till later when bullies get the better of them.

Dont fool yourself into thinking the population is as gentle as you......children need to know boundaries so sort them out young.

[beso]

Yes smacking is losing it.

Children need to learn that their actions can make a parent lose it. Once they discover there is a ponint where the parent can't take any more they tend to stay short of it.

Of course there is the odd odd child who revels in making their parent go over the edge.