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Firstly thanks for the prompt answers...
My ex is living with the guy she left me for, I don't ask any questions, it was too painful at the time. However I get the impression that my son tells her all is well at home and that yes his room is tidy and yes he's being a nice boy..
She buys it, as in the sun shines out of his ass...
And when we do have a bit of a ding dong, and he goes running to her, she's not addressing the issue, merely passifying him by telling him to keep out my road until I cool down..
He only makes i think approx �120/ week and he spends a lot of time on his mobile, hence when i was paying his bills it wasn't just �30 here or there, more like �130, but yes, I couldn't say no... I paid it....
In many ways I am grateful that he is actually a good guy, never been in trouble with the police, doesn't drink to excess, and as far as I'm aware and I am switched on to these things he's not on drugs, I just see him wasting all the opportunities that he has in front of him, because he likes his kool trendy reflection in the mirror, nothing else matters to him...
No matter how I approach any issues we have, I can be the kool down to earth dad, I can be the serious no nonsense father or I can be the ogre from hell.. I get the same results... nothing changes.. its groundhog day everyday...
I know i've only got myself to blame for being a soft touch but its because I care and hate to see him waste what i think are the most vital years of any young mans life...