1 year old not sleeping

[carliex]

seems to be every night when my daughter is with me she is up every hour! its gettin worse and worse shes now at the point where she is calm until i put her into her cot she seems scared of it! we have a nightly routine, bath, cuddles and milk then bed, as soon as i walk into her room she clings to me and screams! i calm her down and put her into her cot and she still screams iv tryed lettin her cry it out but she gets so bad shes gaggin! she doesnt do this for her daddy or her nan just me! i dont no what eles to try with her! last night i just thought i cant do this anymore i need to give her to her dad and it hurts me to say it but im so tired! im scared the feels are goin to get worse and i will just give her to her dad and leave! my health visitor had left so i cant talk to anyone, iv tried talking to my mum but she doesnt understand and thinks im just being stupid! becus no one could leave there children unless there heatless but im not i love her so much but im startin to feel i dont want her near me!

[TTG]

Try a night light with soft soothing music on a timer.

[ladyalex]

I think you need another health visitor.
I also think you need some sleep.
Let dad do the night time routine for a while, like a fortnight or so and see how you feel then.
Try the night light too.
Good luck, but get another health visitor.

[carliex]

thts the only problem im not with her dad he has her 1 night a week, so im on my own every day and night with her!

[brenda]

Is it possible for you to put her cot, crib, bed whatever next to your own for the time being , so that when you put her down you could lie on your bed and gently hold her hand ,or stroke her, chest or tummy. If you can sing to her as well or gently talk , with your little night light on she may fall asleep more easily.
Am not a child expert by any means but this sounds to me like a separation issue , and it is hard to overcome.
You must be tired out , and I think a different HV could be helpful.
Would she fall asleep in your arms when the bed time routine was over if she was snuggled in to you ,say on the settee? The very best of luck-- try to stay calm , hard when you are so tired , could nan or dad put her to bed one night to give you a break?