Trouble poo'ing on Loo

[tamirra]

Morning, my 2.5 yr old grand-daughter has just become toilet trained, she will do a wee on the Loo but she poo's in her knickers, we had to take her to A and E yesterday as she held onto her poo for too long as the last one she did split her little botty and made it so sore to go, her tummy began to distend and she was in a great deal of pain, they have given her a fibre drink to put into her normal juice and she managed to go 3 times when we got home which made her feel a little better, but still the problem is how do we get her to poo on the Loo so she dosn't hold onto it, she has watched mummy go ( sorry lol ) so she knows you are meant to do it down the toilet but she just wont. Any suggestions please? Thank you

[Barmaid]

Well said B00. Tamirra - it will take time. My 11 year old step son is just out of nappies (although he has serious learning difficulties). Wees were cracked a few months back. Poos took just a little longer. Just giving him time and space and not making an issue of "accidents" seemed to work.

I wouldn't worry just yet.

[joeluke]

...and yours and others are the font of all wisdom I suppose?

[ummmm]

Joe....does the responses you get on here ever make you sit back and think that maybe you are a bit warped?

[Sqad]

/////Any suggestions please? ////

Yes.

Leave the management of this child to her mother.

[B00]

Well we aren't the ones advocating rubbing a child face in its own poo or telling them that its dirty are we?

[B00]

Tamirra asked for advice sqad- you suggest we don't offer any?

Apologies Tamirra by the way, Joe's idiotic responses annoyed me, promise to behave now- honest!

;-)

[joeluke]

ummm......just cos people don't like what I post makes me warped does it???

You don't know me and so are in no position to judge

It did actually happen to me and It pained me to post it but I was trying to point out something which went on 35 years ago

[Sqad]

BOO.

No....plenty of advice from you ALL.

But that was MY advice to tamirra. Leave it to the mother.

[joeluke]

What's wrong with telling a child that soiling it's pants is dirty

It IS dirty

It's all part of teaching the child the difference between right and wrong as they grow up

Bringing kids up ain't all about 'softly softly' 'there there' approaches you know

Otherwise you end up with out of control brats like the ones you see on Supernanny tv programme

[ummmm]

You also posted it yesterday....

Warped views Joe. Meaning the majority of AB disagree with the majority of your opinions. Does it ever make you wonder why?

[rowanwitch]

Confessions like that actually go a long way towards explaining why Joeluke is the way he is... What he describes was an instance of child abuse.... perhaps we should just acknowledge he is somewhat damaged and just ignore him when he steps over the line

So far as little one is concerned has she got a step or box in front of the seat so that she can plant her feet properly it was mentioned earlier but it might help as all the appropriate muscles can come into play and it might make it a bit more comfortable for her

[Sqad]

Joe ;-)

[Sqad]

I would guess.....that the problem ISN'T with the baby........!!!

[tamirra]

Sqad i play a large part in my grand-daughters life as in previous posts i have added my daughter has a very rare disease that makes her very ill and i am her carer and also take over my grandchilds welfare when my daughter is ill, this is why im asking for the advice and not my daughter.

[tamirra]

Sqad, meaning??

[tamirra]

Yes she has a step up but she is tiny for her age so her feed wont reanch it when she is sitting on the toilet. x

[tamirra]

Sorry for spelling im in a rush to get to my daughters now and just needed some answers before i went. x

[rowanwitch]

Tamirra, please stop trying to be superwoman.....you can't make everything right at once and you may just burn out and be no good to anyone....carers need to care for themselves too. Are you sure you are not trying to get this little thing under control because you feel helpless in the face of the big thing...your daughter's illness... I shall probably be shot down in flames for this but I've seen something similar before ....