Sunday Express Skeleton 24Th November...
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Too nice?
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Over the years on AB I have noticed that there are people nasty most of the time, nasty some of the time, pleasant some of the time and then a small group who are pleasant all the time.
The group that interests me mainly is the group that is pleasant and understanding ALL the time whatever the topic. Although many are in the other groups, this particular group, mainly women, although there is one man, are understanding, helpful and compassionate and have bucket loads of sympathy all the time.
My question for general discussion is, can this group of people be so understanding that it defeats it’s own object and become predictable and verging on nauseous? Odd question eh?
There are people mainly on Body and Soul who are “attention seekers” and quite often I have the impression that they, the attention seekers, are fed by the “understanding group” hitherto described.
Attention-seeking is particularly noticeable with females so I've used the pronoun "she" and she commonly exploits the suffering of others to gain attention to herself.
Males also exhibit attention-seeking behaviour.
Just something for general discussion.
The group that interests me mainly is the group that is pleasant and understanding ALL the time whatever the topic. Although many are in the other groups, this particular group, mainly women, although there is one man, are understanding, helpful and compassionate and have bucket loads of sympathy all the time.
My question for general discussion is, can this group of people be so understanding that it defeats it’s own object and become predictable and verging on nauseous? Odd question eh?
There are people mainly on Body and Soul who are “attention seekers” and quite often I have the impression that they, the attention seekers, are fed by the “understanding group” hitherto described.
Attention-seeking is particularly noticeable with females so I've used the pronoun "she" and she commonly exploits the suffering of others to gain attention to herself.
Males also exhibit attention-seeking behaviour.
Just something for general discussion.
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It is indeed a very good question, so much so that I once asked a rather attention seeking question along those lines, ie 'Do you find me sickly and nauseating or am I just helpful?'
I am of course being rather pompous and presuming I may be in this group to which you refer.
From my stand point I try to help, calm, mediate not to be seen as angelic, but rather that it is my nature. Yes there is a possibility of 'feeding' the attention seekers, but like to think have sussed them out, the only problem is the possibility of the 'Cry Wolf' scenario.
I am of course being rather pompous and presuming I may be in this group to which you refer.
From my stand point I try to help, calm, mediate not to be seen as angelic, but rather that it is my nature. Yes there is a possibility of 'feeding' the attention seekers, but like to think have sussed them out, the only problem is the possibility of the 'Cry Wolf' scenario.
I thought Craft's answer was eminently sensible!
I jest. I don't know Sqad. But people get different things out of sites like this. Some maybe are lonely, some like to hide behind a mask, some like to help, some are just on here wasting time when they should be doing something more profitable (that latter one is aimed at me).
Even if the nice people DO verge on nauseous, those who find it so can just opt out of that particular thread.
I jest. I don't know Sqad. But people get different things out of sites like this. Some maybe are lonely, some like to hide behind a mask, some like to help, some are just on here wasting time when they should be doing something more profitable (that latter one is aimed at me).
Even if the nice people DO verge on nauseous, those who find it so can just opt out of that particular thread.
I'll be honest and say I find it hard work to be "nice" all the time on here and had a similiar dort of discussion about this on the "Karma" thread yesterday. Saying that other people have passed kind thoughts and advice when I let my guard drop regarding a personnel issue recently and it was appreciated.
Back to work now so can't comment more.....
Back to work now so can't comment more.....
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