trying for a baby after the coil

[sheshe88]

Hi we have been trying for another baby now for 4 years and nothing has happened it took us 2 months with our first and the I had the merina coil in & had no end of problems with it. Im just wondering if anyone else had trouble getting pregnant after having this?

[boxtops]

If you've been trying for more than 12 months with no result, you ought to visit your GP now, to look for possible reasons.

[sheshe88]

Have done only got as far as the scan as my hubby doesnt want the tests done and they won't test me further if he doesnt. We have had many of arguments about it but he won't give in

[ummmm]

4 years is too long. Agree with Boxy, go see your GP.

[ummmm]

Why?

[sheshe88]

Yep it is depression is starting to set in now

[sheshe88]

Well to put it bluntly he doesnt wanna stand in a room and do his thing in a pot, I get it but ive tried telling him how they are gunna test me and that we need answers but nothing I say will change his mind. I know he's scared but so am I

[bednobs]

when mr bednobs did it he was allowed to do it at home and take it in

[bednobs]

ps completely agree there's no point in doing any other tests till he does his

[boxtops]

Why is he scared, sheshe? It's only a matter of doing it - happens every day. That has to be the first step - the doctor won't do any sort of tests on you until that very simple test of your OH's "output" has been analysed.

[sheshe88]

I know, he's scared that it might be him I think!! He just shuts down when I wanna talk about it now.

[boxtops]

That's a bloke thing, sheshe, it's not uncommon, nobody wants to know their sperm's not manful.... he needs to realise that, loads of men are in his position. He needs to know, you both do.

[sheshe88]

I know and have been trying to tell him. But I cant get through!

[bednobs]

you'll just have to accept he's not ready then

[Duncer]

It's the "man thing". We are all afraid that it might be us. His intransigence won't help though and, as already pointed out, you can do it at home.

[DaisyNonna]

A man thing . A bloke thing. Not his problem, obviously. Sheer selfishness.

[sheshe88]

I get that he Is afraid but I do keep telling him it's one test, they have to do more on me, just wish I could make him see. I'll try taking to him again and say he can do it at home, hut I guess im just gunna have to wait till he's ready

[bednobs]

yes. Perhaps it's his way of telling you he really doesn't want another baby at the moment

[sheshe88]

Sorry but that's not the case, I know he wants another baby

[bednobs]

because he tells you he does? Surely actions speak louder than words. He obv doesn't want it enough to overcome the embarrassment of winking at the hospital

[sheshe88]

No because he was really down after I had a miscarriage