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How soon into a relationship should you tell the other person if you don't ever want children?
Too soon and it's a bit too intense, and too late and it's a bit like selling something under false pretences if they do want kids!
Too soon and it's a bit too intense, and too late and it's a bit like selling something under false pretences if they do want kids!
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Not only mention it casually but if this is how you feel, then you need to be very clear that you won't be convinced otherwise. A relationship can develop under the guise that maybe one day you may change your mind, but if you are sure this will never happen, then you need to be clear about it, so that they are under no delusions.
I think as soon as a realtionship has started to 'go steady' (i.e. not one or two dates) then this could come up in general conversation, even if instigated by you.
I think as soon as a realtionship has started to 'go steady' (i.e. not one or two dates) then this could come up in general conversation, even if instigated by you.
Yeah I agree with Redcrx - and at a later date make it clear you are not likely to change your mind (although you may - I was adamant I didn't want kids and one day my biological alarm started clanging!) my friend also never wanted kids and married a man who thought she would change her mind ,but she never has and although they are together and love each other it has left a sadness in his life that she was unwilling, and is now unable to fill.
Never say never katie....
I spent 16 years after the birth of my 1st child to say I was NEVER having another one.....now here I am with a 21 month old...heh!
You may surprise yourself in the future by changing your mind about not wanting children, so tell your partner that FOR NOW you don't want sproglets.
I spent 16 years after the birth of my 1st child to say I was NEVER having another one.....now here I am with a 21 month old...heh!
You may surprise yourself in the future by changing your mind about not wanting children, so tell your partner that FOR NOW you don't want sproglets.
much as I sympathise with B00's maternal urges, I disagree with her. If you just tell him you don't want babies at the moment, that leaves him hoping; and if he wants children himself, he's going to be disappointed when you do not, after all, change your mind.
Of course it's also tough if, having got a husband who agrees with you, you then change your mind when you hear a clock ticking. In fact, it's always tricky changing any long and passionately held belief.
Of course it's also tough if, having got a husband who agrees with you, you then change your mind when you hear a clock ticking. In fact, it's always tricky changing any long and passionately held belief.
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