That's not always so, Ethel. A friend of ours, on her second marriage, never managed to conceive with her first husband, but neither of them sought help. When she remarried, still nothing happened, so she went to her doctor on her own. After exploratory ops to rule out PCOS or blocked fallopian tubes, etc., she was told to keep a temperature chart to try and pinpoint ovulation - meanwhile being given a course of Clomid. When this failed to work, THEN her husband was asked for a sperm sample. I'd also like to say to feelinlost, that BOTH partners can test as being OK, but sometimes the woman rejects that particular man's sperm, for want of a better expression. Happily, much can be done in all cases. My friend now has two beautiful children, so I hope, feelinlost, that you make an appointment with your own doctor, and that you and your partner have any necessary tests & treatment that may be necessary. x