need help again girls, redcrx, B00, anyone; it's all feeling rather familiar

[bednobs]

Hi, am crying as i write this.
for people that don't know, my daughter was stillborn in August of this year owing to IUGR and placental insufficiency. Also, although we declined a PM, blood and placental samples taken at the time revealed a genetic chromosomal abnormality for her and for BOTH me and my husband (his and mine both on different chromosomes). The obstrtrician did not think this is why she died because she had the same balanced inversion of my husband who is alive and well.

Anyway our plan was to have my (last) joint (knee this time) replacement done in January, then perhaps have some IVF to try and get pregnant again, as we would probably need pre-implantation diagnosis to make sure the embryo didn't have a fatal chromosome problem. The gp asked me in the meantime to keep an eye on my cycle as my periods have been usually 7 weeks apart sine i gave birth. I have been doing ovulation sticks everyday, with no positive result in this cycle so far.

(sorry it's long) So, if my cycle was a normal 28 day one i would be a couple of days late now, so because i am due to have an xray pre my surgery on friday i did a pg test yesterday, and to my surprise it was positive. What my question really is, is there any chance of the pregnancy hormone still being arounbd in my body from giving birth in August? Could this be a false positive, and how likely is that? how reliable are the clearblue digi tests anyway?
I cant understand how i am pg if i am. This is the first month not using contraception, and i have not have a positive ovulation test this month

[boxtops]

Hugs bednobs - thinking of you, I know you'll let us know how you get on in the next couple of days.

[bednobs]

thanks, let you all know friday

[bednobs]

i am pregnant

[daffy654]

Congratulations and big hugs too bednobs.

[jackthehat]

Tentative congratulations, bednobs...............?

(I'm not quite sure what your feelings are on the matter.)

[society]

Bednobs, I am really sorry to hear of all what you are going through. As time passes things will get better, it may take a while but it eventually will. *hugs*

[B00]

Aww bednobs xxxxx

Not sure what to say. This pregnancy must feel very bittersweet to you right about now eh?

First things first -where does this leave your knee replacement operation nw then?

I really want to say congratulations, but not entirely sure how appropriate this will be right now, or whether you want to hear it just yet, so i'll play it by ear for now ;-)

If you've still got my email, feel free to drop me a line.

Thinking of you

xxxxx

[askyourgran]

Oh bednobs congratulations, I'm so pleased for you, take care.

[sara3]

bednobs, your post gave me goosebumps!

I'll be crossing everything for you and Mr bednobs xxx

[Mamyalynne]

Oh Bednobs, sending you my love , take care. ♥

[bednobs]

thanks everyone x

[karenmac60]

Checking back to your last post on trying, you said you wanted to try straight away, so this is good news! I know it must be very hard though, and it'll be scary for you. Just try not to stress about it, and I wish you all the best xx

[ChuckFickens]

I may not be one of the girls, but my thoughts are with you and I have everything crossed.

xxx

[AlBags]

Good Luck! Hope things work out.
Bless .. and Huggies ...
Al x

[starone]

Oh, bedknobs, I don't know anything about all these modern tests, but I just wanted to say I hope everything goes well for you. I hope you are pregnant and that this time your baby is born healthy and strong.

[bednobs]

Thanks again everyone.
We have cobbled together a sort-of plan
1) we have an appointment with the clinical geneticist in January - that person will be able to help us decide whether we are going to need CVS or amnio to determine any genetic problems a foetus might have, and therein to decided future plans
2) i am going to wait till after christmas to cancel my operation. one in four pregnancies end in miscarriage, and thigs are still early days (five weeks pregnant). It will be gutting if i cancel the op then find out i could have had it anyway.
3) I am not telling anyone (well apart from you lot lol) until things are either further on or there is some resolution to the genetic issue.
4) I am making myself bullet-proof in the meantime. I want to be really happy and excited, but can't just yet.
5) i'm going to cut my maternity leave short and go back after christmas as i don't have to have a knee replacement + recovery time
Now all i need is some credible reason i can give my family and work as to why i wont be having the op in january, bearing in mind i was due a hip replacement when i found out i was pregnant with Heather, and told them the hospital cancelled it due to winter vomiting virus and shortage of elective beds. that excuse is not going to fly again
Help!

[sara3]

"the hospital has had to cancel/postpone all non-urgent operations due to a backlog of urgent operations, due to the adverse weather conditions"!

why don't you stay off for your leave and put your feet up? you may need to conserve your energy x

[NOX]

Just really pleased for you bedknobs, as for the excuse, tell them they have a backlog bc of the cuts and the bad weather so everything is postponed, just really hope everything goes well for you sweetheart:-)

[jackthehat]

Just raise your eyes to heaven, tut about the NHS cut-backs and say that as your knee has improved (!?!) you're happy to wait a while longer...........

And very best of love and luck to you, Mr nobs and baby nobs.............:o)

[boxtops]

Bednobs - many fluffy congratulations, but as you say tempered with lots of understanding that you have a lot to get through before we can be happy for and with you. You must have very mixed feelings - but I am, overall, so glad for you. Are you having to come off your meds now? Wishing you so much of everything... ♥