I Don't know what i can do about it,help please!

[protondonor]

Well,its somewhat irritating.while i was at my close friend's house i saw his sister and i felt a bit attracted to her and that i wanna know her.She never had any contact wit me as she never stay's with us ,so i had no choice except to tell him that i would like to get to know your sister if you don't mind,can you ask her or your parents(because my friend was traveling abroad for 4 months) if they don't mind me coming over to talk with her,BTW we are family friends too.
She didn't mind but was a bit embarassed and she told me that she's not fond of meeting guys this way,but I HAD NO CHOICE.i met her the first time at her place,it was fun and i enjoyed,she gave me her number by the end of the day.i phoned her once everyday for the next 3 days and a sms every morning.
Everything seemed smooth until the 3rd day she phoned me telling me she felt pushed and not ready for sms,phone calls or even wats app and that shes a turtle and takes time.i Agreed n didnt phone her,we fixed a date the next day at her place.(that was the 2nd meeting)
i met her ,it wasnt free as the 1st meetin as i felt her scared,n her dad came around abit.i met her for 1.5 hourse n left.
no contact from her for 2 days,i phoned her the 3rd day saying(things like its ok i liked you becoz of who you are not becoz you're a family fiend at all and stuff like dat to take it out of family circle)
4 days later of no contact ,she phones me "iam really uncomfortable and cant know you this way and i'm not interested"
i told her ok,the question is, i really like her,is there anything i can do about it...why did she change suddenly,she asked me not to phone her,therefore how can she know me so she have to be uncomfortable,plus she wanted to take more time knowing me why the decision after 2 meetings n 3 phone calls !!!
sorry for long explanation ..thnx ..help appreciated :D

[protondonor]

sorry for spelling mistakes

[tenrec]

It sounds as though you were a bit full on, try taking things more slowly next time. She maybe wasn't ready for the relationship you wanted. Good luck.

[protondonor]

I felt that too,but i asked a couple of friends n showed them my messeges and they dont feel that i was that pushy..so yo telling me that there's nothing i can do about it ?? some suggested that because its a bit of a formal way..she didnt like it ! what do you think ?

[tenrec]

I think you sound like you are trying too hard. She may not want to meet you every two or three days. She might only want to meet you as a friend or only once a week. There are lots of reasons why she may not want a friendship with you. From her view, she may see you as pestering. Sorry, I know it is not what you want to hear.

[China Doll]

You'd get on my tits love if you were like that initially. Take a lesson from it and be a less intense next time.

[Prudie]

I'd say she's not interested and never has been. Just a bit uncomfortable with telling you. I'd give up.

[squarebear]

From the style of your posts, I'm guessing you are a teenager. I know it's hard but you will find someone else. Try not to get too hung up on this one girl even though I know it hurts like hell. It will get better.

[sometimesit]

I think that some people take time to warm to you. By keep ringing and sms you should slow the approach. You have play it by ear with these things as each individual copes differently to things. I would not want anyone to suddenly 'arrive'. Self discipline is required, to be ready for the next move but don't continue as you were, it did not work out. Mail an invite for an evening meal or some other activity that is not intimidating so that she can consider it before giving and answer. If you rush this the answer will be NO every time as it is a way out. Think what she wants, she may be looking for something that is not you?

[protondonor]

Hmm... Thnx for the help .i just wanna say"She gave me her phone number in d first. Meeting" she told me take my phone number without me askin for it...

So everyone think there is no solution i can use to fix things.??? shall i try one last time sendin her a mail or sms askin if we could hv a talk by d end of next week in the mornin at any cafe.. Coz wen she foned me i was in the car with my friends n i didnt hv tim to conversate wt her about it..

[squarebear]

Sorry I don't understand, "n i didnt hv tim to conversate wt" but the answer is no. Don't appear desperate. It's just part of growing up. You will meet another girl and look back at this laughing.

[Duncer]

For once the expression "My partner doesn't understand me" would be totally appropriate.

[happyone2]

I think you should respect her decision................ she has clearly told you it is not what she wants, she did it kindly and with politeness - so i would suggest you leave her alone, IF she were to change her mind, SHE will let you know...............but if not, then i really think you should leave her alone