Should I Rise Above This?

[ClaryS]

OK before I start this is not a thing that is either worrying me or causing undue concern I would just genuinely like to know what other people would do. A couple of days ago a FB acquaintance ( I have met outside of cyber land on a couple of occasions) asked if I knew any good places to go with her metal detector. I know of a hidden old roman road in some private woods and arranged with the owner for her to spend the day there, private parking and goodwill that she could keep what she found unless it was a treasure trove situation. I saw her fleetingly before she left and she said there was not much to be found but they'd had a good day, she didn't thank me for organising it but hey ho I think that's almost normal for some people these days .To-day looked at her FB page and there was a Status from last night '' Roman Road My Ar*se!'' . My first thoughts were the ungrateful C+w and was going to put on her status something like 'charming' but left it. I know this sounds very school playground-y but what would you do ? Ignore the comment or make sure she knew you'd seen it ?

[Baby_Sham]

I'd tell her I hoped she had better luck next time in choosing her own place.

[Old_Geezer]

Ignore it.

[chrissa1]

I'd make sure she knew you'd seen it. Not sure what I'd say though.

[Baby_Sham]

Ah yes, good answer Triggs.
Just comment with *Dislike*... you ungrateful cow :P

[mazie]

Some people wouldn't know a Roman Road if they fell over it Clary

[leahbee]

I would ignore it. Life's to short to get into arguments on face book.
Put it down to experience.

[daffy654]

Maybe she was having a dig at the landowner rather than you. Perhaps she was insinuating that he or she had fooled both of you.

[daffy654]

You could also point out that Time Team don't always find anything after a 3 day dig either. Sometimes there is not anything to be found despite proof that the site was previously Roman/Iron Age/Whatever.

[Svejk]

I agree with her. I mean, if she didn't find an amphora full of sesterces you were wasting her time.

[mccfluff]

I'd ask her what the problem was and why she thought it wasn't a roman road, and go from there.

[ludwig]

Send her a link to this question.

[cazzz1975]

I agree with fluff, I would then rip her apart.

[grasscarp]

I dont do Facebook but if I did I would unfriend her. That's what people do on there isn't it?

[andy-hughes]

Lave it Clary - she's not worth it!!!!!

[mccfluff]

triggs - one warning, that's it, just the one....

[pixie373]

Tell her- that's interesting, because when you went last month, you found a £1500 Roman bowl.

[joko]

i would comment - and embarrass her - make her look a fool for expecting one trip with a metal detector to bring up a roman treasure, for being ungrateful, and also for being rather stupid in thinking you would not see the post

i'd give her your reason as to why you believe it to be a roman road - a link to an article or something - then ask her why she was upset about it?
ask if it was because she didn't find anything?
suggest that perhaps metal detecting is not the hobby for her if she was going to be so upset every time she didn't find anything - since it was going to happen a lot.

then say, so sorry you didn't find your fortune and you will not waste her time again by going out of your way to organise it for her.

because whatever she has said in public i bet she has said worse in private, so it lets all her friends know what an ungrateful fool she is



i don't agree with people whose auto response to any sort of conflict is to ignore it and say nothing - people need to be told when they are being out of order - or they just keep doing it.

ignoring someone does not 'get to' people more than saying something, they do not secretly admire you for your 'dignified silence', it just makes them think they have got away with it.